By Lala Fogarty
Maybe you don’t agree with me, but maybe would you consider agreeing with “Supernanny” Jo Frost? Experts agree with her. The American Academy of Pediatrics agrees with her. Advocates for peaceful parenting agree with her. Supporters of evidence based research, they agree with her too. Maybe her approach isn’t something you can jump onboard with, but maybe, just maybe, take a new look at the issue of spanking, from the perspective of someone who has extensive experience in the art of raising children.
According to a recent HuffPost Live interview –
“When it comes to spanking, ‘Supernanny’ star Jo Frost gives clear advice: ‘Don’t do it.’ ”
Spanking our children puts them at greater risk for aggressive behaviors, delinquency, depression, feelings of alienation, future violent tendencies, and lower professional and economic achievement than their non-spanked peers. When we spank our children, it might work, for the moment, but what doesn’t work about spanking is long term success. Spanking puts an end to the undesirable behavior, but only in the here and now. By spanking our children, we put them at higher risk for a host of psychological, physical and societal issues.
Frost joined HuffPost’s Nancy Redd for a conversation about her new book, Jo Frost’s Toddler Rules: Your 5-Step Guide to Shaping Proper Behavior, when a commenter asked for her opinion on physical discipline, Frost said she sees no justification for using a hand, belt or paddle on a child. “It’s not necessary, it’s not effective, it doesn’t teach the child and all it does is damage the relationships in the long run,” she said. “It’s not a technique, that’s for sure.”
Spanking sets up a loop of bad behavior. Corporal punishment instills fear rather than understanding. Even if children stop tantrums when spanked, that doesn’t mean they get why they shouldn’t have been acting up in the first place. What’s more, spanking sets a bad example, teaching children that aggressive behavior is a solution to problems. Spanking teaches our children that love and violence are inextricably connected, and makes discipline more difficult as the child outgrows it.
Whether you agree with “Supernanny” or not, something we can all agree on is that no one wants to make the art of parenting more difficult.
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