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By Christine Murray, See the Triumph Co-Founder

A couple months ago, we ran a pledge on our Causes site that gave people a chance to pledge to tell survivors, “It’s Not Your Fault!” The response was overwhelming. Over 1,600 people took the pledge as a sign of their support for survivors, and we think this number of pledges sends a powerful message to survivors that truly, the abuse they experienced is not their fault.

Dr. Christine E. Murray, Program Director for the Program to Advance Community Responses to Violence Against Women in the UNCG Center for Women's Health and Wellness, is an Associate Professor and Coordinator of the Couple and Family Counseling Track in the UNCG Department of Counseling and Educational Development. She teaches graduate-level courses in family counseling, family violence, sexuality counseling, and counseling research. Dr. Murray received her Ph.D. in Counselor Education, with a specialization in Marriage and Family Counseling, from the University of Florida. She completed her undergraduate degree in Psychology and Sociology at Duke University.  She is a co-founder of See The Triumph, a Stop Abuse Campaign partner.
Dr. Christine E. Murray, Program Director for the Program to Advance Community Responses to Violence Against Women in the UNCG Center for Women’s Health and Wellness, is an Associate Professor and Coordinator of the Couple and Family Counseling Track in the UNCG Department of Counseling and Educational Development. She teaches graduate-level courses in family counseling, family violence, sexuality counseling, and counseling research. Dr. Murray received her Ph.D. in Counselor Education, with a specialization in Marriage and Family Counseling, from the University of Florida. She completed her undergraduate degree in Psychology and Sociology at Duke University. She is a co-founder of See The Triumph, a Stop Abuse Campaign partner.

To every survivor out there: We want you to remember this message: “It’s not your fault!” Every time you are told or start to feel that you are to blame for the abuse you experienced, try to imagine a room (Or auditorium? Or city block?) full of over 1,600 people. Imagine that all of these people know deep in their hearts that the only one responsible for the abuse you experienced was the person who chose to abuse you.

We know that the blaming of victims comes from many internal and external sources. If someone tells you it is your fault, it can be easy to believe them. However, nobody deserves to be abused.

We send a big thanks to everyone who took this pledge! If you took it and want to do more to support survivors, please consider taking our new pledge to do at least one thing each month in 2014 to challenge the stigma surrounding intimate partner violence. Throughout the year, we’ll continue to provide you with the resources and inspiration to stick with this pledge.

As always, thanks for all you are doing! We are honored to be partnering with you in the See the Triumph community!

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