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Why Get Involved IV

Why Get Involved IV

Children who disclose abuse do so between nine and eleven times before they are believed. Some never tell. If a child you know, a child you love, discloses abuse, will you be listening?

RECENT FROM Safe Schools

Suwannee Paddlings

Suwannee Paddlings

Even though it is one of the lowest populations statewide, Suwannee County School District has the highest rate of corporal punishment used on students in the state of Florida. A recent WUFT article, Concerns Raised About Corporal Punishment in North Central Florida Schools, reports on the public school’s disparities and shocking number of paddlings.

RECENT FROM Redefining Rape

Papal Sanctions

Papal Sanctions

Before we celebrate Pope Francis’ starting to sanction priests for child sexual abuse we should ask him to stop sanctioning the victims of pedophile priests and start to sanction those who have covered up their sins.

Plus: Download What Pope Francis Can and Must Do Now to Address the Epidemic of Sexual Violence in the Catholic Church

Protect your kids

We are often asked, “What can I do to protect my children from Child Sex Abuse?” As almost a quarter of children are sexually abused it is a good question, Melanie Blow has some good answers.

posted on: Dec 4, 2013 | author: admin

Top 10 Reasons

Jill Starishevsky has been an Assistant District Attorney in New York City since 1997, where she has prosecuted thousands of sex offenders and dedicated her career to seeking justice for victims of child abuse and sex crimes.

She has heard all the reasons why parents don’t discuss child sexual abuse prevention with their children. In honor of April’s Child Abuse Prevention Month memorializes the top 10 reasons why parents choose not to discuss the subject.

Is your reason on this list?

Top 10 Reasons
posted on: Apr 2, 2014 | author: admin

Safe At Home?

What is it like to be safe at home? Here’s a description by wise twelve-year-old:

To me, home is that place where the
outside world can’t go. It’s a place that’s
safe, and happy, even when you’re sick.
It’s where the light is always on, and
where the music is playing!

Meanwhile, this is not what all children experience. Many live in homes inhabited by wolves wearing sheep’s clothing.

Safe At Home?
posted on: Apr 2, 2014 | author: Admin1

Listening

Tina Swithin asks why we aren’t listening to children when they talk about their abuse.

“According to my personal experience and research, this agency that was designed to protect children often hands out hall passes to abusers the moment they discover that there is a child custody case in progress. They simply don’t want to get involved so they turn a blind eye to the abuse. Sadly, they’ve given this particular father at least 14 hall passes to abuse his child in horrific ways.”

Listening
posted on: Apr 2, 2014 | author: admin
Building Belief

Building Belief

posted on: Apr 1, 2014 | author: admin

Wanting to become a Believer but not sure where to start?

Here’s a step to step guide to becoming a Believer and sharing your belief with the world.

Eain Brooks R.I.P.

Eain Brooks R.I.P.

posted on: Apr 1, 2014 | author: admin

Eain was a 5 year old little boy from Buffalo NY who unfortunately lost his life at the hands of his mothers boyfriend, Matthew W. Kuzdzal.

Today, April 1st marking the start of Child Abuse Awareness Month, Melanie Blow asks why we, the people, allow so many of our children to be abused. We know how to stop abuse. So why don’t we?

Why do people abuse? What can we do to stop it?

Believers

Believers

posted on: Apr 1, 2014 | author: admin

Many people ask me how I can keep working on painful abuse cases in which courts often disbelieve true complaints and fail to protect children. The answer might be found in this inspiring story of three brave children who told my client their father was physically and sexually abusing them.

Their mother had made a report to child protective services and asked the family court for custody and a protective order. Initially the children were protected while the investigation proceeded. The children told the child protective caseworker, the judge, their law guardian and the evaluator what their father had done.

Nobody believed them.

Victim Victory!

Victim Victory!

posted on: Apr 1, 2014 | author: admin

In a move reflecting the massive change from a church in crisis to a church where a “humble, people’s pope takes world by storm,” Cardinal Dolan this morning announced his support for a the Child Victims Act (A1771A).

The Child Victims Act, brought forward by victims of child sexual abuse and their advocates, was blocked over the last 10 years by the Roman Catholic Church who have invested millions of dollars through lobbyists over the years to protect their secrets.

Read how this important change may affect this years legislation in Albany.

No-Spank Challenge

No-Spank Challenge

posted on: Mar 30, 2014 | author: admin

It’s April and Child Abuse Prevention Month and we are promoting the NO SPANK CHALLENGE.

Do you think you could go a week? A month? A year without spanking? Could you give up spanking altogether? Many parents spank out of frustration several times a week, even smacking or slapping every day. You are not alone in the struggle to keep your cool and find alternatives.
Join us in the nospankchallenge and follow along as we support each other.

Safe Child Act

Safe Child Act

posted on: Mar 29, 2014 | author: admin

The health and safety of children must be the first priority

The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?

Kids to Abusers!?

Kids to Abusers!?

posted on: Mar 29, 2014 | author: Admin1

After trying and often failing to absorb the reality that family (divorce) courts are taking abused children away from safe mothers and giving them to dangerous fathers, most people ask the salient question. “Why?

What on earth would motivate a judge to do such a cruel thing to a child?”

Talk about It

Talk about It

posted on: Mar 28, 2014 | author: admin

Talking about child sexual abuse is one of the greatest tools we have to combat it. When we keep open the lines of communication for our children, we equip them with tools to protect themselves. People who sexually abuse children count on their silence, count on their inability to talk about it and count on your lack of involvement. Lala encourages us to talk about it, keep talking about it and realize that talking openly with your children about personal safety and boundaries means they will come to you as their primary source of information and protection.

Verizon Porn

Verizon Porn

posted on: Mar 26, 2014 | author: admin

As an incest survivor I am especially outraged and insulted that the broadband and telecommunications giant Verizon, a company outspoken about its intolerance of domestic violence, defends allowing porn with themes of incest and pedophilia. Verizon’s FiOS video on-demand service is negligently showing hard-core pay-per-view illegal themed porn with inadequate filtering on it’s cable, internet, wireless service, smartphones and tablets. Providing this type of dangerous pornography sanctions it’s existence.

College Flu

College Flu

posted on: Mar 26, 2014 | author: admin

“A girl has roughly the same chance of being sexually assaulted during college as she does of getting the flu.”

In February Soraya Chemaly wrote this in the Huffington Post. Even as someone who talks about rape, its prevalence and its devastating impact on survivors every day Andrew Willis found this comparison jarring. Here’s what he thinks we need to do right now to change this.

Abused Senators

Abused Senators

posted on: Mar 25, 2014 | author: admin

Child sexual abuse (CSA) won’t disappear until all of us talk about it in every facet of our society. Completely eliminating child sexual abuse is a noble, essential goal- the Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE) study shows us how much this crime costs in terms of health, lost potential and money. However, insisting that every child learn something about CSA in school, unless their parents don’t want them to, and changing nothing else won’t fix the problem.

Melanie Blow comments on prevention efforts in Utah.

Royal Discipline

posted on: Mar 24, 2014 | author: admin

Britain’s Daily Express reports that Prince George will never be smacked by his new Spanish nanny Maria Teresa Turrion Borrallo – her training forbids it.

Norland College, the Bath-based elite institute that taught the 43-year-old, believes “a child is never naughty” and would strike off any graduate who used physical punishment, an expert revealed yesterday. Writer Louise Heren, who co-wrote a book about Norland nannies and spent a year at the college making a TV documentary, said yesterday: “They will never ever smack. They will be struck off if they do. A child is never naughty but the behaviour is.”

Why Get Involved?

Why Get Involved?

posted on: Mar 24, 2014 | author: admin

See a child being abused in a parking lot? Why get involved? Suspect your neighbor or your friend or a co-worker of child abuse? Why get involved? There are many reasons, or justifications we all make in order to turn the other way and avoid the confrontation that comes with acknowledging child abuse. I’ve made some of the same excuses that some of you probably have. I don’t want to make it worse. What if I’m wrong? I don’t want to hurt her feelings or make her think I am judging her. And the list goes on. So many reasons not to get involved, but how about if we take a look at a few of the reasons to get involved?

Victory For Kids

Victory For Kids

posted on: Mar 24, 2014 | author: admin

Thanks to grassroots efforts from local parents, and groups like Floridians Against Corporal Punishment In Public School, the Santa Rosa School District in Florida has finally agreed to phase out the use of corporal punishment from their school’s Student Code Of Conduct. This is great news for the future of that community, so why are so many upset by these changes?

The reason may surprise you.

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