New Year Resolution
Discipline without Violence
Happy New Year! Why not make a resolution to a year without violence. For some of us that means finding alternatives to punishment.
If we use time outs for the purpose of “punishment” sometimes the situation becomes overwhelming and out of control. So, why not use time out as a time for your little one to gather him/herself and just to calm down. Time out is much more effective when used as a means to diffuse the situation at hand, allowing you and your child to calm down before discussing the conflict you are experiencing. The time out glitter jar is a wonderful way to encourage this very type of teaching moment.
Think of the glitter jar as a meditation tool to use whenever your child feels stressed, overwhelmed, or upset. Have your little one shake the jar, and explain to him/her that once the glitter is settled, the time out is over. The glitter and water combination create a soothing, calming effect, allowing your tiny heart to collect him/herself.
I think LR Knost explains discipline best: “If controlling another human being is the goal of parenting, then force is necessary. Fear, intimidation, threats, power-plays, and physical pain are the means of control. But, if growing healthy humans is the goal, then building trust relationships, encouraging, guiding, leading, teaching, and communicating are the tools for success.”