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Cannot remember how many boys he molested


By Andrew Willis

It is easy for me to gasp a sigh of relief and be thankful that another child rapist is on his way behind bars. For his victims though it is too late.

The Adverse Childhood Experiences Study conducted by the CDC shows the long term harm done to children by abuse. Untreated this long term harm that will cause some to die many years earlier than their peers. Sadly we now know with statistical certainty that adverse childhood experiences cause both medical and psychological problems for victims and cost all of us upwards of $500 billion a year in taxes.

According to the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) rape is mostly violence against the young, or to put it another way, the vulnerable.

So can we do more to stop children being raped?

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Yes is the simple answer. A lot.

Parents and other adults that work with children can ensure that they have the latest training from a reputable provider like Darkness to Light or the Enough Abuse Campaign.

But training parents is not enough our legislators have responsibilities too?

    1. Abusers usually abuse multiple victims

      When police asked how many youths he may have molested, Eddie said that there were “so many that [he] advised he cannot remember.”

      I’m confident that every one of his victims remembers being abused by him. I’m also confident that there will be many more children who have been raped and abused than have come forward. In my own case when the police started contacting other former pupils of the teacher that abused me only some of the other victims were ready to talk to the police, and some of them felt that a court case was more than they could handle.

    2. Victim silence is one of the things abusers rely on.   Legislators in New York and other states need to pass the Child Victims Act which unlocks the court house doors to victims allowing them to report their abuse when they are ready to. The latest research shows that it takes most victims over 20 years to come to terms with their abuse and be able to speak about it. Our legislators shut the court house doors in just 5 years meaning if abuse has not been reported by the time a child is 23 years old they are silenced by the very laws that should protect them.Today only 3 out of 100 child rapists ever get convicted, the Child Victims Act allows the police to do their job. Protect our children.

    3. Abusers don’t look like anybody    Everybody looks like an abuser when mugshots are take. We need to be careful, not paranoid, but abusers are the people you don’t expect, like fathers, grandmothers, cousins, and teachers, priests, and even famous football coaches. If abusers came with looks or badges almost of a quarter of children wouldn’t still be abused?Protecting children means not leaving them alone with adults.

    4. Abuse, even rape, can be confusing for a child    In a process known as grooming abusers psychologically condition children to keep them silent. All of us can do more to fight the stigma we create about abuse because it is not only laws that silence children it is us. If your children cannot have a conversation with you about sex and sexuality they are unlikely to tell you that they have been raped.Our legislators can do more too. The Rape is Rape Bill removes the confusion about what rape is. It’s ridiculous that New York and other State’s laws define rape in a different way to the FBI. Is it any wonder that children are confused about what rape is? So are our laws. and it’s time for that to change.

Sign the petitions to support the Child Victims Act and the Rape is Rape Bill


Alabama children’s pastor tells police he ‘cannot remember’ how many boys he molested (via Raw Story )

On Thursday, a pastor in Muscle Shoals, Alabama pleaded guilty to 16 counts of sodomy, three counts of sexually abusing a child under 12-years-old, and one count of child pornography. Jeffrey Dale Eddie, also known as “Brother Jeff,” had served…

Andrew Willis is a founding partner of the Stop Abuse Campaign.  A survivor of childhood sexual abuse, intimate partner violence and suicide. Formerly a Madman of Madison Avenue Andrew has two sons and lives in Harlem, New York. He's a frequent speaker at conferences and blogs for the Stop Abuse Campaign.

Andrew Willis is a founding partner of the Stop Abuse Campaign. A survivor of childhood sexual abuse, intimate partner violence and suicide.
Formerly a Madman of Madison Avenue Andrew has two sons and lives in Harlem, New York. He’s a frequent speaker at conferences and blogs for the Stop Abuse Campaign.

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