Stop Abuse Campaign Protecting Children. Preventing Trauma. 2016-04-30T23:51:37Z http://stopabusecampaign.com/feed/atom/ Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Political Correctness is Really Moral Correctness]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12076 2016-04-30T23:51:37Z 2016-04-30T23:51:37Z We use the term "political correctness" derisively, to mean "minimization of unearned privilege". The way we talk about oppression is very important to our understanding of it, and to its continuation or elimination.
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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[I want a divorce]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12073 2016-04-30T02:35:10Z 2016-04-30T02:35:10Z I thought divorcing an abusive husband would be the hardest thing I ever did. Then I started therapy- that seemed harder. But all those hard things worked truly were for the best, and truly did work out in the end. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[April 30th No Spank Day]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12069 2016-04-29T02:31:10Z 2016-04-29T02:31:10Z Spanking changes kids' brains. And it does so in different, bad ways. It doesn't work. So why not give it up? read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[The Story of Surviving Myself]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12063 2016-04-29T02:02:15Z 2016-04-28T02:43:09Z I had it all until my childhood caught up with me. I had a high ACE score, and despite my success at other things in life, it was predictable that with a score like mine I would struggle with addiction and suicide read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[The Baby, the Bathwater and the Bad Mother]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12060 2016-04-27T01:34:58Z 2016-04-27T01:34:58Z There is a renewed interest in legislation seeking to remove newborns testing positive for drugs from their mothers. These bills may be satisfying, but history has shown they don't work. Things that do work, such as maternal home visitation programs, are only available to a fraction of the people who need them. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Top Ten Things You Learn by Listening to Survivors]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12055 2016-04-26T03:05:47Z 2016-04-26T03:05:47Z There are so many misconceptions about child sexual abuse, and survivors seldom speak about their experiences. But when they do, and when people listen to them, they can learn a lot about the crime that they won't learn elsewhere. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Monday Morning…]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12049 2016-04-26T20:05:15Z 2016-04-25T02:03:01Z Monday morning. As a mother gets her son ready for school, she sees the bruises his father gave him. She sees the shame and fear in her sons eyes. And she's reminded of the broken systems that let this continue. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Another New York Cover-Up]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12027 2016-04-24T17:52:37Z 2016-04-23T19:08:07Z A survivor of child sexual abuse at a NY Jesuit school has recently come forward. The Catholic Diocese, lead by Cardinal Timothy Dolan, is not doing anything to assess the scope of the problem, help victims or prevent the named abuser from doing any more harm. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Happy Earth Day]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12017 2016-04-22T21:04:35Z 2016-04-22T21:04:35Z What better way to celebrate Earth Day than to let children experience the earth? Children who spend time outside, playing, are happier, healthier, and have a better appreciation of the earth we all need to share. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[That Awkward Moment When]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12013 2016-04-22T02:27:17Z 2016-04-22T02:27:17Z Telling a friend "I think your son is in danger of being sexually abused" is one of the most awkward conversations possible. It contains elements of "I know more about something than you do" and "you're making a mistake as a parent", and can easily be rebuked with "you're just a dark, twisted, miserable person". But when a child's life is in danger, you do what you have to do. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[The Facts Behind the Panic]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12006 2016-04-21T02:26:42Z 2016-04-21T02:26:42Z Missing child reports make the blood of every parent run cold. The statistics about how many children go missing are confounding and complex. As scary as they are, kidnapping by strangers is very, very rare. But the number of children who are kidnapped by a parent, who run away, and who just become "misplaced" all shed some light on the whole issue. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[They break, you know]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11993 2016-04-20T01:11:12Z 2016-04-19T21:21:35Z As long as we have foster care, we will have children who fall through it's cracks. This is the tragic tale of one child who fell through the cracks and was forever lost to the world. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[When the abuser is five…]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11990 2016-04-18T23:30:16Z 2016-04-18T23:30:16Z There is massive ignorance in our society about child-to-child sexual abuse, which accounts for about 40% of the crime. Children can innocently engage in certain "sexual" activities that don't harm other children and don't indicate that the child themselves has been abused. Children can also commit enormously brutal acts of sexual violence that scar their victims for life. Much is known about these crimes, and it is worth talking about. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Georgia Paddling]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11984 2016-04-17T15:24:05Z 2016-04-17T15:24:05Z Recently, a video went viral showing a little boy getting paddled at school despite his mother's wishes. The mother had to choose between detention for her child and the spanking, and she feared she'd be put in jail if he missed any more time from school. This is an impossible choice for a parent, and underscores why there should be no corporal punishment in school. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[The Tsimhoni Case: When Courts Hurt Children]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11979 2016-04-16T23:23:33Z 2016-04-16T23:23:33Z When the Tshmhoni children were sentenced to spend time in a juvenile detention facility if they didn't have lunch with their father, it made headlines around the world. While their case was extreme, it contained very common elements, and is only different from 58000 cases a year by a matter of degree. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Beyond the click bait (or what parents must know about child trafficking)]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11973 2016-04-17T01:01:11Z 2016-04-16T01:47:58Z The myth of "stranger danger" appears to have evolved for the age of cyber crimes. There is a viral piece of click-bait that people pass around as a public service, that tells the tale of a woman who friends a stranger on facebook, which results in her daughter being kidnapped. Learn the truth about child sexual abuse, sex trafficking and cyber crimes read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Why I keep talking about it]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11970 2016-04-15T01:51:36Z 2016-04-15T01:51:36Z It's never easy to talk about rape and incest. But talking about it can be healing, to the person who talks, who asks, and who listens. It can unite people. And it is essential to ending sexual abuse. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[No Spank Day]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11966 2016-04-09T21:57:28Z 2016-04-09T21:57:28Z No Spank Day By Lala Fogerty     Leading up to NO SPANK DAY on April 30th, and maybe before we decide to take that challenge( or not), maybe we could just pay attention for the next couple of weeks or even the next couple of days, to how often we smack, pop, h read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[Dennis Hastert and Do-it-yourself Justice]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11958 2016-04-08T19:49:01Z 2016-04-08T19:49:01Z Investigators have revealed that Dennis Hastert sexually abused a growing number of now-grown children. His name entered the headlines last year, when it was revealed one victim blackmailed him for a substantial amount of money. Financial compensation is rarely the sole reason victims disclose, but it is often the only approximation of justice available to victims. read more

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Melanie Blow <![CDATA[What April is All About]]> http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11955 2016-04-08T23:13:03Z 2016-04-08T16:00:15Z April is child abuse prevention month. Contrary to popular belief, we know a great deal about child abuse prevention, and a few basic pieces of public policy can prevent most abuse from starting. Maternal Home Visiting, Statute of Limitations reform for child sexual abuse laws, adult education on the topic of child sexual abuse, and best practices that prevent domestic violence will protect children and save taxpayers huge sums of money. read more

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