Stop Abuse Campaign http://stopabusecampaign.com Protecting Children. Preventing Trauma. Sat, 30 Apr 2016 23:51:37 +0000 en-US hourly 1 Political Correctness is Really Moral Correctness http://stopabusecampaign.com/political-correctness-is-really-moral-correctness/ Sat, 30 Apr 2016 23:51:37 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12076 We use the term "political correctness" derisively, to mean "minimization of unearned privilege". The way we talk about oppression is very important to our understanding of it, and to its continuation or elimination.
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I want a divorce http://stopabusecampaign.com/i-want-a-divorce-2/ Sat, 30 Apr 2016 02:35:10 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12073 I thought divorcing an abusive husband would be the hardest thing I ever did. Then I started therapy- that seemed harder. But all those hard things worked truly were for the best, and truly did work out in the end. read more

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April 30th No Spank Day http://stopabusecampaign.com/april-30th-no-spank-day/ Fri, 29 Apr 2016 02:31:10 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12069 Spanking changes kids' brains. And it does so in different, bad ways. It doesn't work. So why not give it up? read more

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The Story of Surviving Myself http://stopabusecampaign.com/12063-2/ Thu, 28 Apr 2016 02:43:09 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12063 I had it all until my childhood caught up with me. I had a high ACE score, and despite my success at other things in life, it was predictable that with a score like mine I would struggle with addiction and suicide read more

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The Baby, the Bathwater and the Bad Mother http://stopabusecampaign.com/the-baby-the-bathwater-and-the-bad-mother-2/ Wed, 27 Apr 2016 01:34:58 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12060 There is a renewed interest in legislation seeking to remove newborns testing positive for drugs from their mothers. These bills may be satisfying, but history has shown they don't work. Things that do work, such as maternal home visitation programs, are only available to a fraction of the people who need them. read more

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Top Ten Things You Learn by Listening to Survivors http://stopabusecampaign.com/top-ten-things-you-learn-by-listening-to-survivors/ Tue, 26 Apr 2016 03:05:47 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12055 There are so many misconceptions about child sexual abuse, and survivors seldom speak about their experiences. But when they do, and when people listen to them, they can learn a lot about the crime that they won't learn elsewhere. read more

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Monday Morning… http://stopabusecampaign.com/monday-morning-2/ Mon, 25 Apr 2016 02:03:01 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12049 Monday morning. As a mother gets her son ready for school, she sees the bruises his father gave him. She sees the shame and fear in her sons eyes. And she's reminded of the broken systems that let this continue. read more

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Another New York Cover-Up http://stopabusecampaign.com/another-new-york-cover-up/ Sat, 23 Apr 2016 19:08:07 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12027 A survivor of child sexual abuse at a NY Jesuit school has recently come forward. The Catholic Diocese, lead by Cardinal Timothy Dolan, is not doing anything to assess the scope of the problem, help victims or prevent the named abuser from doing any more harm. read more

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Happy Earth Day http://stopabusecampaign.com/happy-earth-day/ Fri, 22 Apr 2016 21:04:35 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12017 What better way to celebrate Earth Day than to let children experience the earth? Children who spend time outside, playing, are happier, healthier, and have a better appreciation of the earth we all need to share. read more

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That Awkward Moment When http://stopabusecampaign.com/that-awkward-moment-when-2/ Fri, 22 Apr 2016 02:27:17 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12013 Telling a friend "I think your son is in danger of being sexually abused" is one of the most awkward conversations possible. It contains elements of "I know more about something than you do" and "you're making a mistake as a parent", and can easily be rebuked with "you're just a dark, twisted, miserable person". But when a child's life is in danger, you do what you have to do. read more

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The Facts Behind the Panic http://stopabusecampaign.com/the-facts-behind-the-panic/ Thu, 21 Apr 2016 02:26:42 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=12006 Missing child reports make the blood of every parent run cold. The statistics about how many children go missing are confounding and complex. As scary as they are, kidnapping by strangers is very, very rare. But the number of children who are kidnapped by a parent, who run away, and who just become "misplaced" all shed some light on the whole issue. read more

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They break, you know http://stopabusecampaign.com/they-break-you-know-2/ Tue, 19 Apr 2016 21:21:35 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11993 As long as we have foster care, we will have children who fall through it's cracks. This is the tragic tale of one child who fell through the cracks and was forever lost to the world. read more

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When the abuser is five… http://stopabusecampaign.com/when-the-abuser-is-five/ Mon, 18 Apr 2016 23:30:16 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11990 There is massive ignorance in our society about child-to-child sexual abuse, which accounts for about 40% of the crime. Children can innocently engage in certain "sexual" activities that don't harm other children and don't indicate that the child themselves has been abused. Children can also commit enormously brutal acts of sexual violence that scar their victims for life. Much is known about these crimes, and it is worth talking about. read more

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Georgia Paddling http://stopabusecampaign.com/georgia-paddling/ Sun, 17 Apr 2016 15:24:05 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11984 Recently, a video went viral showing a little boy getting paddled at school despite his mother's wishes. The mother had to choose between detention for her child and the spanking, and she feared she'd be put in jail if he missed any more time from school. This is an impossible choice for a parent, and underscores why there should be no corporal punishment in school. read more

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The Tsimhoni Case: When Courts Hurt Children http://stopabusecampaign.com/the-tsimhoni-case-when-courts-hurt-children/ Sat, 16 Apr 2016 23:23:33 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11979 When the Tshmhoni children were sentenced to spend time in a juvenile detention facility if they didn't have lunch with their father, it made headlines around the world. While their case was extreme, it contained very common elements, and is only different from 58000 cases a year by a matter of degree. read more

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Beyond the click bait (or what parents must know about child trafficking) http://stopabusecampaign.com/beyond-the-click-bait-or-what-parents-must-know-about-child-trafficking/ Sat, 16 Apr 2016 01:47:58 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11973 The myth of "stranger danger" appears to have evolved for the age of cyber crimes. There is a viral piece of click-bait that people pass around as a public service, that tells the tale of a woman who friends a stranger on facebook, which results in her daughter being kidnapped. Learn the truth about child sexual abuse, sex trafficking and cyber crimes read more

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Why I keep talking about it http://stopabusecampaign.com/why-i-keep-talking-about-it/ Fri, 15 Apr 2016 01:51:36 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11970 It's never easy to talk about rape and incest. But talking about it can be healing, to the person who talks, who asks, and who listens. It can unite people. And it is essential to ending sexual abuse. read more

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No Spank Day http://stopabusecampaign.com/no-spank-day/ Sat, 09 Apr 2016 21:57:28 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11966 No Spank Day By Lala Fogerty     Leading up to NO SPANK DAY on April 30th, and maybe before we decide to take that challenge( or not), maybe we could just pay attention for the next couple of weeks or even the next couple of days, to how often we smack, pop, h read more

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Dennis Hastert and Do-it-yourself Justice http://stopabusecampaign.com/dennis-hastert-and-do-it-yourself-justice-2/ Fri, 08 Apr 2016 19:49:01 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11958 Investigators have revealed that Dennis Hastert sexually abused a growing number of now-grown children. His name entered the headlines last year, when it was revealed one victim blackmailed him for a substantial amount of money. Financial compensation is rarely the sole reason victims disclose, but it is often the only approximation of justice available to victims. read more

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What April is All About http://stopabusecampaign.com/what-april-is-all-about/ Fri, 08 Apr 2016 16:00:15 +0000 http://stopabusecampaign.com/?p=11955 April is child abuse prevention month. Contrary to popular belief, we know a great deal about child abuse prevention, and a few basic pieces of public policy can prevent most abuse from starting. Maternal Home Visiting, Statute of Limitations reform for child sexual abuse laws, adult education on the topic of child sexual abuse, and best practices that prevent domestic violence will protect children and save taxpayers huge sums of money. read more

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