Ashley Judd hit out at inaccurate media commentary of her looks but more at the system of patriarchy behind it.
“Patriarchy is a system in which both women and men participate. It privileges, inter alia, the interests of boys and men over the bodily integrity, autonomy, and dignity of girls and women. It is subtle, insidious, and never more dangerous than when women passionately deny that they themselves are engaging in it. This abnormal obsession with women’s faces and bodies has become so normal that we (I include myself at times—I absolutely fall for it still) have internalized patriarchy almost seamlessly.
“I agree with Ashley” said Andrew Willis of the Stop Abuse Campaign, “every man has watched as another whistles at a women. For the more enlightened amongst us we may actually disapprove but I rarely get much support when I suggest talking about it. Why?
Most of my friends aren’t patriarchal but I don’t know how many are feminists either. I often get told that “It doesn’t really do any harm.”
But it does, it does incredible harm.
Patriarchy assumes the superiority of man over woman, and in most cases children as well. It’s been around for ever but that doesn’t make it right. Patriarchy is a system of power and control and it is abusive in a society based on equality, and abuse and violence breed abuse and violence. They are the foundation of the culture of violence and abuse in America. The movement to stop abuse has to be built on the actual equality of women as full partners in society, built on the basis of agreement and not control, but the movement to stop abuse is no longer a woman’s movement. All of us, men, women and children, should thank the women’s movement for the leadership they have shown.
Violence and abuse is an issue for all of us in America. 1 in every 6 women are victims of rape or attempted rape. The difference doesn’t make much difference when you are the victim. I in 3 women are victims of intimate partner violence, almost a quarter of our children are sexually abused, many others live starved or beaten into submission.
Men get abused too. In the UK a sexual abuse cause has run ads targeting men. Here in the US organizations like Male Survivor and 1 in 6 are doing important work to support abused men. Oprah Winfrey did her famous two shows with ‘Oprah’s Men’ many of whom I’m proud to count amongst my friends.
Abuse and Violence affects us all and we all need to be a part of stopping it – and that starts on every street corner.”
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Ashley Judd Slaps Media in the Face for Speculation Over Her
Ashley Judd’s ‘puffy’ appearance sparked a viral media frenzy. But, the actress writes, the conversation is really a misogynistic assault on all women.
The Conversation about women’s bodies exists largely outside of us, while it is also directed at (and marketed to) us, and used to define and control us. The Conversation about women happens everywhere, publicly and privately. We are described and detailed, our faces and bodies analyzed and picked apart, our worth ascertained and ascribed based on the reduction of personhood to simple physical objectification. Our voices, our personhood, our potential, and our accomplishments are regularly minimized and muted.
As an actor and woman who, at times, avails herself of the media, I am painfully aware of the conversation about women’s bodies, and it frequently migrates to my own body. I know this, even though my personal practice is to ignore what is written about me. I do not, for example, read interviews I do with news outlets. I hold that it is none of my business what people think of me. I arrived at this belief after first, when I began working as an actor 18 years ago, reading everything. I evolved into selecting only the “good” pieces to read. Over time, I matured into the understanding that good and bad are equally fanciful interpretations. I do not want to give my power, my self-esteem, or my autonomy, to any person, place, or thing outside myself. I thus abstain from all media about myself. The only thing that matters is how I feel about myself, my personal integrity, and my relationship with my Creator. Of course, it’s wonderful to be held in esteem and fond regard by family, friends, and community, but a central part of my spiritual practice is letting go of otheration. And casting one’s lot with the public is dangerous and self-destructive, and I value myself too much to do that. READ COMPLETE ARTICLE BELOW: