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Stop Abuse Campaign Capitol Hill Briefing Focuses on Stopping the Cycle of Abuse and Violence
Washington, DC —With a message of, “We are here to help,” anti-abuse and anti-violence organizations joined with the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the Victim’s Right Caucus to brief Capitol Hill on the wide extent and massive costs of abuse in today’s society. The event at the Rayburn House Office Building was hosted by the Stop Abuse Campaign (www.stopabusecampaign.org ), and Reps. Ted Poe (R-TX) and Jim Costa (D-CA), co-chairs of the Congressional Victims’ Rights Caucus. “In our efforts to prevent injuries and violence, the CDC is currently partnering and looking to do public/private partnerships to end violence in the community,” said Dr. Linda Degutis, Director of the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control at the CDC. “It takes a whole community to prevent violence and our effort involves a multi-disciplinary approach. We do know that prevention and partnerships are critical to ending violence.” Andrew Willis, CEO of the Stop Abuse Campaign applauded the work of the CDC as well as the role of many organizations who have been working on the many facets of the cycle of abuse. “Abuse is a combination of dangerous attitudes and behaviors, including deliberate, physical, sexual, emotional and financial abuse of the weak by the strong. It must be stopped,” added Willis. “All abuse and violence is interconnected,” said Robert Geffner, Ph.D., co-chair of the The National Partnership to End Interpersonal Violence Across the Lifespan (NPEIV) and President of the Institute on Violence, Abuse and Trauma at Alliant International University. “We must focus on prevention and education so that everyone can feel safe in their own homes, feel safe in their schools, feel safe on their streets, and feel safe in their communities,”said Geffner. “If we don’t act now, the statistics on abuse and violence will continue to grow.” Two speakers reminded the audience of their personal stories of abuse and violence, and the work they’re doing to stop abuse. MIldred Muhammad, former wife of convicted and executed DC Sniper and a survivor of interpersonal violence, reminded the audience that a victim of abuse doesn’t always have physical scars, but is still very much a victim. “Eighty percent of victims of abuse do not have scars to prove it,” said Muhammad, “but we stand with them.” Chris Anderson, executive director of Male Survivor brought his message that, “Healing and hope are possible for all survivors, but every surivor needs support.” Anderson, himself a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, emphasized that what happened to him, can happen to anyone. “Not only can the abuse happen,” said Anderson, “but the healing can happen too.”
Staring into the bright clinical lights of the Very Intensive Care Unit in a hospital far from home. I’d swallowed 300 Tylenol PM and wished the world goodbye. Almost a week before. It was so predictable and therefore preventable. I tell the story for Child Abuse Prevention Month.
Abusers follow patterns
There is a mathematical theory based in fractal geometry called “Chaos Theory”. At its most simplistic level, it says that if you look long enough and carefully at what looks like total chaos, patterns begin to emerge. This is exactly how I help my clients in coping with their court cases against an abuser.
CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims of child abuse
If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.
What does safe feel like?
Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.
A beautiful lie about child abuse
We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.
Re-abusing children in court
Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges
How stopping abuse saves billions
It is important for businesses to understand the enormous benefits the Quincy Solution provides to the business community. Today many are unaware of the money that can be saved by ending our tolerance for men’s abuse of women.
Is spanking, abuse?
When we discuss spanking we often get the reaction that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. We agree with that. In most states it is perfectly legal to spank your child. This doesn’t make it good for children nor does it stop it from being abusive. We’re not seeking to judge we are seeking to educate. Spanking your children, even with love, actually especially with love, causes long term harm. There are better ways.
We like the way this article on Vox explains it.
Paying billions to be abused
Barry Goldstein shows how The Quincy Solution saves America $500 Billion every year by stopping domestic violence crime. The Academy on Violence and Abuse estimates that we spend between $333-750 billion per year on health costs made necessary by domestic violence- much of this is saved when communities implement The Quincy Solution though.
The Quincy Solution
The Quincy Solution is a group of best practices that will dramatically reduce domestic violence crime and child abuse. It means that women and children can be safe in their homes. The Quincy Solution will make our society happier, healthier and richer. Battered women and children will have the opportunity to reach their potential free from the obstacles imposed by abusive men. And the Quincy Solution will save the United States $500 billion every year.
Sign and support the Safe Child Act
The health and safety of children must be the first priority
The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?
What’s your ACE score??
Barry Goldstein shows how research can stop domestic violence and save America’s taxpayers $500 billion every year.
One of the most important research studies about the impact of domestic violence on children began as a project to treat morbidly obese patients and help them lose substantial amounts of weight by eating no food but taking supplements to satisfy their nutritional needs. Some patients failed to lose the expected weight because they did not follow the protocol, but it was successful patients who were the ones to drop out of the program.
Suffer the children. Custody courts take no mercy
An alarming percentage of the 74 million children in the United States are in jeopardy, living with physical abuse, sexual trauma, emotional pain, and/or neglect. Nearly 6 million of them are involved in reports of child abuse every year, although fewer and fewer are being protected. 22% live in poverty We asked leading domestic violence expert Barry Goldstein for the top 10 ways we could know the custody courts are broken.
Why do people abuse?
This is no easy task, and experts have spent decades studying the nuances of the human psyche to figure out what makes a person abusive and why people abuse. Are there core personality traits which predispose people toward abuse, or is abuse a learned behavior?
Child Abuse Changes the Brain
Child abuse – The brain changer Science now shows how the abused children develop...
Missing Rucki Sisters Found: But Is That a Good Thing?
The Rucki case has been receiving headlines since the 16 and 17-year-old sisters, Samantha and Gianna Rucki, ran away from their father’s sister’s home in April 2013. Shortly after their disappearance, the girls made a statement to local news alleging that they ran away because their father was abusive and begging to live with their mom. Then they went into hiding. According to Dr. Joyanna Silberg, a forensic psychologist who received a Department of Justice Grant to study the problem of children being placed with abusers, “In my own in-depth study of children sent to live with abusive parents based on a data set of over 50 cases, I discovered that professionals routinely ignore evidence of domestic violence and child abuse in custody cases misinterpreting the information as a “custody strategy.” In my sample, children spent an average of four years in the care of an abusive parent and suffered physical and emotional effects that will take a lifetime to recover from.”
I Can’t Forgive My Mother
In the typical abuse narrative, the man who wields the belt is the beast, the one who must atone if he is ever to be redeemed, to become human. The woman who smoothes ointment on bloody backs and sings “Somewhere Over the Rainbow” is never seen as culpable, even though she closed the door or turned up the radio to blot out the screaming. She is to be pitied: terrified, paralyzed—a bystander to her child’s suffering. As a teenager, I would call my father a monster. A bastard. Anything and everything you can imagine I’d call him, I did. But I called my mother just one thing: traitor.
Courts vs Kids part VII
As bad as our current family court situation is, there are some straight-forward solutions. Courts must use important research such as the ACE study and Saunders study, must be mindful of judicial bias, must use a multi-disciplinary approach and must rely on bona-fide domestic violence experts, not simply psychologists. These things can make children safer and our society better in many ways.
She still doesn’t think her son did anything wrong
Right now the news is reporting about a nine-year-old boy who won’t stop giving a classmate unwanted love letters. Is it wrong for a nine-year-old to write love letters? No. Is it wrong for a nine-year-old to ignore a classmate’s “no”? Absolutely. And is it wrong for adults to say “boys will be boys?” Certainly.
Justice for Jared?
This week, Jared Fogel will receive a sentence of no more than twelve years for sexually abusing at fourteen children. Such a short sentence is shocking, and people have been writing to the judge responsible for the sentencing. Jared’s sentence is short, but 90% of offenders never get convicted. And all discussions of sentencing length should take that into account.
Mark Your Calendar
Tuesday, December 1 is #GivingTuesday. It’s a day we celebrate the good we can do in the world, and the happiness we can can feel, when we give to our favorite causes. Stop Abuse Campaign is unique because we focus on keeping kids from being abused, maltreated, or experiencing domestic violence. We prevent kids from experiencing trauma that shortens their life. Your donation to us helps us prevent abuse, and helps kids grow into healthy, happy adults. It helps us ensure children don’t lose that joy and innocence we celebrate this time of year.
The Nonsense of Beating Sense Into Kids
I have argued elsewhere against school corporal punishment on grounds of the right to security of person and given the Platonic warning that “nothing taught by force stays in the soul.” The aims of education offer a further, crucial reason why we ought to end the use of corporal punishment in public schools.
I learned to never ask for help
My right ankle, broken. My left ankle, a category three sprain, a mess of screaming ligaments. The worst part was that first moment after my body hit the ice and before the shock set in: the realizations that I’d just lost the independence that armored me against the world and made me feel strong. And if I wasn’t strong, I needed other people. And if I needed other people, I was nothing
The Greg Hardy Case And What The NFL Has Learned About Domestic Violence
After the video of Ray Rice hitting his then-girlfriend to the point of unconsciousness surfaced last year, the NFL pledged to mend their ways. However, in light of the details that have come to light about Greg Harding’s domestic violence case, it’s clear the NFL isn’t using best practices. Stop Abuse Campaign’s Barry Goldstein explains exactly what they’re doing wrong.
Courts vs Kids- Part VI
Family court judges and evaluators often have a poor understanding of domestic violence and child abuse. This causes them to believe that separating a child from their abusive father is worse than letting the father abuse them or their mother. This ignorance and the poor decisions it causes can sentence children to a lifetime of physical and mental illness.