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Stop Abuse Campaign Capitol Hill Briefing Focuses on Stopping the Cycle of Abuse and Violence
Washington, DC —With a message of, “We are here to help,” anti-abuse and anti-violence organizations joined with the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the Victim’s Right Caucus to brief Capitol Hill on the wide extent and massive costs of abuse in today’s society. The event at the Rayburn House Office Building was hosted by the Stop Abuse Campaign (www.stopabusecampaign.org ), and Reps. Ted Poe (R-TX) and Jim Costa (D-CA), co-chairs of the Congressional Victims’ Rights Caucus. “In our efforts to prevent injuries and violence, the CDC is currently partnering and looking to do public/private partnerships to end violence in the community,” said Dr. Linda Degutis, Director of the National Center for Injury Prevention and Control at the CDC. “It takes a whole community to prevent violence and our effort involves a multi-disciplinary approach. We do know that prevention and partnerships are critical to ending violence.” Andrew Willis, CEO of the Stop Abuse Campaign applauded the work of the CDC as well as the role of many organizations who have been working on the many facets of the cycle of abuse. “Abuse is a combination of dangerous attitudes and behaviors, including deliberate, physical, sexual, emotional and financial abuse of the weak by the strong. It must be stopped,” added Willis. “All abuse and violence is interconnected,” said Robert Geffner, Ph.D., co-chair of the The National Partnership to End Interpersonal Violence Across the Lifespan (NPEIV) and President of the Institute on Violence, Abuse and Trauma at Alliant International University. “We must focus on prevention and education so that everyone can feel safe in their own homes, feel safe in their schools, feel safe on their streets, and feel safe in their communities,”said Geffner. “If we don’t act now, the statistics on abuse and violence will continue to grow.” Two speakers reminded the audience of their personal stories of abuse and violence, and the work they’re doing to stop abuse. MIldred Muhammad, former wife of convicted and executed DC Sniper and a survivor of interpersonal violence, reminded the audience that a victim of abuse doesn’t always have physical scars, but is still very much a victim. “Eighty percent of victims of abuse do not have scars to prove it,” said Muhammad, “but we stand with them.” Chris Anderson, executive director of Male Survivor brought his message that, “Healing and hope are possible for all survivors, but every surivor needs support.” Anderson, himself a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, emphasized that what happened to him, can happen to anyone. “Not only can the abuse happen,” said Anderson, “but the healing can happen too.”
Part 4: Children SHOULD be heard after all
About 58,000 children a year are ordered to have unsupervised contact with an abusive parent in the United States — over twice the yearly rate of new childhood cancer, according to the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence, a non-profit organization that promotes the ethical application of psychology
Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Peterson
For those who are familiar with my story, you know that I am intimately familiar with how it feels to lose a child. I also know the pain of learning that your child was murdered as the result of a horribly abusive incident. I simply cannot understand how a man whose child was murdered in this violent way can justify raising his hand to another one of his children. As I read more and more about the story, I felt as though I had entered some strange alternate reality. I couldn’t believe how bold this man was to believe he would not have to face the law after what he did.
Abusers follow patterns
There is a mathematical theory based in fractal geometry called “Chaos Theory”. At its most simplistic level, it says that if you look long enough and carefully at what looks like total chaos, patterns begin to emerge. This is exactly how I help my clients in coping with their court cases against an abuser.
CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims of child abuse
If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.
What does safe feel like?
Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.
A beautiful lie about child abuse
We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.
Re-abusing children in court
Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges
Defeating domestic abuse: The Quincy Solution
It is common rhetoric to say we should end domestic violence. We may not be able to prevent all domestic violence tactics or even all domestic violence crimes, but we know how to quickly create a massive reduction in domestic violence crimes and especially domestic violence homicide. How do we get from here to there?
How stopping abuse saves billions
It is important for businesses to understand the enormous benefits the Quincy Solution provides to the business community. Today many are unaware of the money that can be saved by ending our tolerance for men’s abuse of women.
Is spanking, abuse?
When we discuss spanking we often get the reaction that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. We agree with that. In most states it is perfectly legal to spank your child. This doesn’t make it good for children nor does it stop it from being abusive. We’re not seeking to judge we are seeking to educate. Spanking your children, even with love, actually especially with love, causes long term harm. There are better ways.
We like the way this article on Vox explains it.
Paying billions to be abused
Barry Goldstein shows how The Quincy Solution saves America $500 Billion every year by stopping domestic violence crime. The Academy on Violence and Abuse estimates that we spend between $333-750 billion per year on health costs made necessary by domestic violence- much of this is saved when communities implement The Quincy Solution though.
The Quincy Solution
The Quincy Solution is a group of best practices that will dramatically reduce domestic violence crime and child abuse. It means that women and children can be safe in their homes. The Quincy Solution will make our society happier, healthier and richer. Battered women and children will have the opportunity to reach their potential free from the obstacles imposed by abusive men. And the Quincy Solution will save the United States $500 billion every year.
Sign and support the Safe Child Act
The health and safety of children must be the first priority
The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?
What’s your ACE score??
Barry Goldstein shows how research can stop domestic violence and save America’s taxpayers $500 billion every year.
One of the most important research studies about the impact of domestic violence on children began as a project to treat morbidly obese patients and help them lose substantial amounts of weight by eating no food but taking supplements to satisfy their nutritional needs. Some patients failed to lose the expected weight because they did not follow the protocol, but it was successful patients who were the ones to drop out of the program.
Suffer the children. Custody courts take no mercy
An alarming percentage of the 74 million children in the United States are in jeopardy, living with physical abuse, sexual trauma, emotional pain, and/or neglect. Nearly 6 million of them are involved in reports of child abuse every year, although fewer and fewer are being protected. 22% live in poverty We asked leading domestic violence expert Barry Goldstein for the top 10 ways we could know the custody courts are broken.
Why do people abuse?
This is no easy task, and experts have spent decades studying the nuances of the human psyche to figure out what makes a person abusive and why people abuse. Are there core personality traits which predispose people toward abuse, or is abuse a learned behavior?
Child Abuse Changes the Brain
Child abuse – The brain changer Science now shows how the abused children develop...
Knowing who is impacted by the disorder, what PTSD might “look” like, and how it can be treated will hopefully help you, or someone you know not only recover but ultimately triumph over abuse
Don’t you believe it!
My call to action is criticism and sensitivity to the details surrounding sex trafficking and child abuse, because in the absence of reality, experienced people tend to reference the reality perceived, in order to better understand something they aren’t familiar with.
Spanking: Abuse or Discipline?
Tony Richardson, former NFL player; Tyree Washington, world champion in the 400 meter; and Craig McEwen, former NFL player, share their personal experiences with a belt or switch. Andrew Willis, CEO of Stop Abuse Campaign; Asadah Kirkland, author of Beating Black Kids; and Robbyn Peters Bennett Psychotherapist and Child Mental Health Specialist help us understand how spanking impacts children then and when they are adult and, most importantly, how we can the culture and stop beating our kids.
Stories of Survival | 1 of 77
In this, our first of seventy seven stories of survival, Cleone Reed, editor of The Quincy Solution, explains why she feels so strongly about the Quincy Solution and stopping domestic violence and invites you to share your story.
Media Apologizes for Giving Cosby Free Pass
The Cosby scandal is just the latest example of the media finding excuses to remain silent while influential men abuse women and children. If they are genuinely sorry to have allowed the Cosby scandal and so many others to continue years after it should have been obvious, we know a lot of women and children who need their help.