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How to stop rape

“A girl has roughly the same chance of being sexually assaulted during college as she does of getting the flu.”

By Andrew Willis

In February Soraya Chemaly wrote this in the Huffington Post. Even as someone who talks about rape, its prevalence and its devastating impact on survivors every day I found this comparison jarring.

You can vaccinate against the flu. Nearly everybody gets over it. Whereas for rape victims being raped is a defining moment in our lives. And not in a good way.Screen Shot 2014-03-17 at 2.19.16 PM

Four out of ten rape victims are under 18. Increase that age to 25 and you’ll catch most other victims. Most of us silenced by stigma. Many of us confused about what happened.

We are the reason the top rape search term on Google is “was I raped?”

It doesn’t need to be this way though.

Firstly we need to clearly define rape. We need to agree what it is.

Aravella“The importance of calling rape by its name cannot be understated. By denying this fact, by calling rape something different – predatory sexual act or criminal sexual act –society fails to validate the victim’s experience and trauma.”

State Assemblywoman Aravella Simotas, Rape is Rape Bill Sponsor

The Senate has proposed different legislation that still draws a distinction between vaginal rape, oral rape and anal rape. This perpetuates the intractable fallacy of “real or legitimate rape” as contrasted with violations of the mouth and anus as not real rape.

It is also confusing. Driving rape victims back to Google, confusion and silence.

Ask the Senate to support the Rape is Rape Bill and not the dangerous Senate version.

1/.  Cut and paste the letter below into an email. Edit and personalize as you see fit.

Dear Senator,

I’m writing to ask you to pass the Rape is Rape Bill proposed by Assemblywoman Aravella Simotas. Assembly Bill number A339 and not the competing Senate Bill proposed by Senator Young.

Senator Young’s bill draws a distinction between vaginal rape, oral rape and anal rape. This perpetuates the intractable fallacy of “real or legitimate rape” as contrasted with violations of the mouth and anus as not real rape.

Rape is rape and our laws should reflect that and not draw a distinction where there is none.

Thank you.

2/.  Then send it to these email addresses:

 [email protected][email protected][email protected],
[email protected][email protected],  [email protected],
[email protected][email protected][email protected],
[email protected],  [email protected],  [email protected],
[email protected],  [email protected][email protected],
[email protected]

3/. Sign the petition

Petition for Congressional Oversight Hearings

 

Andrew Willis is a founding partner of the Stop Abuse Campaign.  A survivor of childhood sexual abuse, intimate partner violence and suicide. Formerly a Madman of Madison Avenue Andrew has two sons and lives in Harlem, New York. He's a frequent speaker at conferences and blogs for the Stop Abuse Campaign.

Andrew Willis is a founding partner of the Stop Abuse Campaign. A survivor of childhood sexual abuse, intimate partner violence and suicide.
Formerly a Madman of Madison Avenue Andrew has two sons and lives in Harlem, New York. He’s a frequent speaker at conferences and blogs for the Stop Abuse Campaign.

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