After a reporter confronted Lena Dunham with accusations of sexually abusing her little sister, millions of Americans asked themselves some hard questions. To some, the behavior described seemed terrifying, a sure indication that she is a sex offender. Others said no six-year-old could possibly be among the ranks of Jerry Sandusky. Many nervously remembered “playing doctor” when they were young, and worried if they innocently ruined someone’s life.
So imagine my surprise when I was contacted this week by BBC 3 Counties Radio to discuss a breaking story in the Daily Mail regarding Jamie Oliver and his comments on making his child eat an apple he had rubbed with a very hot chilli as a consequence for behaviour he didn’t like. Consequences do not build respect and relationships they teach avoidance, compliance and distance. Fortunately, children CAN learn right from wrong when spoken to kindly using a feelings- informed approach which provides them with the ultimate force shield against all the ups and downs of life.
I set a benchmark. The red line I wouldn’t cross. The minute he hit me, I would leave. But the truth is, I know I wouldn’t have left then either. I would have rationalized that in hitting me, he would realize how out of hand things were. Everything would change now. I wouldn’t have left.
With a little preparation and thought we can create a happy, healthy, wonderful holiday season for ourselves and our littles.
Great piece by Tara Sullivan of the New Jersey record that quotes Barry Goldstein’s recent article laying out what Ray Rice and Adrian Peterson should do.
“Adrian Peterson’s son will recover from his physical injuries, but far more critical will be the long-term harm from the fear and stress caused by the father’s beating,”
Fit, loving, capable parents like Tameka Raymond are losing custody of their children every day in family courts for the same reason that Tameka lost custody; their cases are tainted by money, power and influence.
Three years ago today, a grand jury presentment revealed the unknown horrors of a prominent figure in the Penn State community. The charges stemmed from the stories of eight individuals, with many more following in their footsteps.
As time distances itself from the unveiling of the Jerry Sandusky child sex abuse case, their stories haven’t changed. Today, we remember them and others subjected to all forms of institutional abuse.
We seem to make protecting children far more complicated than it needs to be. Most of it is just common sense, and really there is not a list of rules we can apply to every situation.
The mother of a 15-month-old boy who died while on a visit to his father in 2012 will be paid a $550,000 wrongful death settlement from the psychologist who testified that it was safe to leave the boy with his father, Joaquin Rams. How does this effect other cases? Barry Goldstein comments.
We need a sea change in how women are portrayed by the media…A strong message that domestic violence is not acceptable needs to be conveyed backed up by punishments for the perpetrators. “ ~ Domestic violence survivorIntimate Partner Violence, Stigma, & The Media: Series Introduction
The NFL, despite being the most profitable entity in American sports, is a nonprofit organization with an obligation to stand up for the common good.