When everyone in a community with any role in dealing with domestic violence is given a solid understanding of it, the community gets safer.
If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.
The ACE study showed that all child abuse is a matter of life and death. The Child Abuse Prevention and Treatment Act (CAPTA) turns 40 this year. It’s birth represented a milestone in our accepting of children’s rights and what is necessary to keep them healthy. After 40 years, CAPTA is still an essential tool to protect children, although newer research shows we’re harming children if we rely on it too heavily.
Despite what your attorney may tell you about how it will make you “look” if you refuse to release your records, consider this point, particularly when it comes to custody/visitation: if you were so “crazy” that you are not a fit parent, why did your partner never pursue this claim when you were together?
Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.
We can stem the tide of bullying by not acting like bullies ourselves. If children learn what they live, maybe it is time we take a look at our own personal responsibility for the bullying epidemic.
Many people have asked how my meetings in Washington went so I wanted to provide an update to my earlier article. In general the meetings were productive and I am encouraged by the response. I suspect the needed reforms will not come with the urgency that is necessary, but I do feel we are making progress.
Once I got out of the home and became active in the domestic violence community, I found that many women spend a great deal of time wondering why their partners’ had (or do) abuse them. I realized I wasn’t alone in my pondering.
We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.
Since I tried to end my life, more than 25 million others have joined the ranks of suicide survivors in America. Most of them suffering from shame, perhaps, like Robin Williams who was recently quoted as saying, “’I was shameful, did stuff that caused disgust – that’s hard to recover from.”
What about a checklist for sexual abuse prevention in our schools? What types of questions should parents be asking at the start of a new school year? Here is a list of such questions to ask in your child’s school to help you get started on a new year with protecting your children in mind:
Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges