Bunnies Don’t Lie
Bunnies Don’t Lie
By Lala Fogerty
Most of us, as parents, will agree that lying to our children is a bad idea. We would also likely agree that leading by example is far more effective than a “do as I say” kind of mentality. Still with me? Okay, now consider when we lie to our children we damage our relationship and we create trust issues for our kids. Still with me? Then why is it okay to lie to our children, to encourage our littles to believe in a magical bunny that leaves baskets of goodies to “good” boys and girls? It isn’t.
Before you get all, “Lighten up,” and “Don’t be a kill joy” on me, hear (or read, as the case may be) me out. Make believe is wonderful. Pretend is a natural part of childhood. Imaginative play should be fostered and encouraged, as should reading fictional books because they are presented as such, but lying to our kids and perpetuating the lie of the Easter Bunny or Santa Claus or the Tooth Fairy not only harms our credibility but also skews the lines between fact and fiction. Our children need to know that when they ask us a question, they will get the truth. Lying to them with elaborate “Santa ate your cookies!” types of lies certainly doesn’t help them and might even harm them, so why take the risk?
The Easter Bunny is make-believe. Harmless. Fun even, as long as we present him as the pretend creature that he is, then there isn’t a problem. But once we start lying to our children, showing them stories on the news of Santa and his reindeer being tracked to our town via radar, we set a precedent that if it makes us happy, if it feels good, or if we are told to, we lie.
Imagine the harm we create when our children cannot discern the difference between fact and fiction, liars and truthful people. We make it that much easier for child predators to manipulate, lie to and groom our children. Enjoy Easter, enjoy the candy, and the egg hunt and the church service (or not), enjoy time with your family and the warmer weather, just do it without the lie. Peace.
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Laura Fogarty writes “Ask Lala” for the Stop Abuse Campaign. She is a mother, an advocate and the author of two children’s abuse prevention books: I’M THE BOSS OF ME! and WE ARE JUST ALIKE!
Laura has an ACE score of 6.