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Breaking the Silence on Child Sexual Abuse

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I sat in the back of a predominantly African-American mosque nervously waiting to hear the Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan speak for the first time. As anticipated, everything about his message stirred my spirit.

As I listened attentively to the minister discuss the things that would have to transpire for us to experience radical improvements in the quality of life for Black people, I mentally prepared to take stock in his plan. I was 94% sold on it until Farrakhan began speaking about the changes that needed to occur within the Black home. He was mid speech and I vividly remember being overcome with sheer confusion. My delirium quickly escalated to internal rage.

I was not a mother yet, but I remember feeling my body heat up when the minister said with sternness that we need to stop allowing little girls to sit on the laps of men, because there are men who are aroused by little children.

I instantly felt like he was attacking the great men in my life. I felt obligated to defend my father’s honor by expressing my clear disgust. I felt compelled to make it clear that I dismissed the idea that a father would turn to his child for the sake of sexual pleasure.

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1 in 5 New York Kids Are Sexually Abused. Help Prevent That

The CDC reports that 1 in 5 children are sexually abused.

9 out of 10 of the perpetrators are never brought to justice and never appear on sex offender registries.

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The SAFE Child Act: What this legislation means to protective parents

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For all those frustrated parents currently battling their abusive exes in court for custody of their children, or who have been battling for years already, who are feeling hopeless, defeated and forgotten—help is coming.

Legislation is currently being proposed in several states that demands the safety and well being of children be the top priority in family court decisions. Seems obvious, right? Except, it isn’t.

“Custody courts developed practices in the 1970s to respond to domestic violence when there was no research. At that time, the popular opinion was that domestic violence was caused by mental health issues, so [courts] turned to mental health professionals for advice,” explains one of the authors of the legislation, author, advocate and former attorney Barry Goldstein.

Often, judges will ask these experts to evaluate a parent’s mental health, and, if determined they are mentally sound, courts often decide they couldn’t be abusive. But, argues Goldstein, “Since domestic violence is not caused by mental illness, that doesn’t tell us anything. When they use a psychologist as an evaluator, it’s the equivalent of using a primary care physician to make a cancer diagnosis.”

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1 in 5 New York Kids Are Sexually Abused. Help Prevent That

The CDC reports that 1 in 5 children are sexually abused.

9 out of 10 of the perpetrators are never brought to justice and never appear on sex offender registries.

They are protected by New York State laws.

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ACE Made Simple

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If you’re anything like me, you were confused the first time you heard of the ACE Study, and maybe even more confused by the seemingly endless online explanations of the aforementioned study. By now you’ve probably seen at least one article or blog or meme about ACE scores and the ACE Study, but maybe it still seems a bit unsettling at least. I know it seems more than a bit confusing and unsettling to me, so let  me try to simplify it for all of us –  there are ten types of childhood trauma measured in the ACE Study. These abuses, or traumas, are broken down into physical abuse, verbal abuse, sexual abuse, physical neglect, and emotional neglect, and further broken down to the things we witness as children such as a parent who’s an alcoholic, a parent who’s a victim of domestic abuse, a family member in jail, a family member diagnosed with a mental illness, and the disappearance of a parent through divorce, death or abandonment. Each type of trauma a child may experience counts as one “point.”  The higher one’s ACE score, the greater the risk of future problems.  

 

To make it far less complicated, maybe we could just think in terms of the less negative experiences we have as children, the better. But what does this mean to us, in all practicality, as parents? To me, it means let’s take a look at where our own risk factors may be, and take positive steps to reduce or eliminate those risks.

 

What if we took an honest look at our own ACE score and set about to change that score for the better for our own children? Or, what if we looked into our own lives and the lives of our kids as if we were on the outside looking in? Maybe, just maybe, we need to assess and amend some of the practices we use at home, with our own children.

 

Practical ways to lower the ACE score of your children would be to ask yourself some hard questions and to answer them honestly. Drinking too much? Get help ( through AA or another twelve-step program, or your church, or a treatment facility, or any of a host of ways to get help and get a handle on your drinking before it sinks you and your children).  Yelling too much? Hitting your children? Take a parenting class, talk to a friend, read a book about peaceful parenting tips.  Connect emotionally with your children whenever you can – read a book, eat together, take a walk, talk about your day! Learn the facts about sexual abuse, talk about it, and take positive steps to prevent it for your children. (Learn more by visiting www.d2l.org )

 

There are so many practical ways we can reduce the future risk categories for our children, by educating ourselves and seeking solutions to problems that may exist in our home, or with our parenting.  Get creative, get involved, and create a better future for your child and for generations to come by lessening the experiences that have a negative impact on your child’s development and their future.   

 

1 in 5 New York Kids Are Sexually Abused. Help Prevent That

The CDC reports that 1 in 5 children are sexually abused.

9 out of 10 of the perpetrators are never brought to justice and never appear on sex offender registries.

They are protected by New York State laws.

Sign this petition and change that. Protect NY Kids.

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Laura Fogarty

Laura Fogarty

Editor, Ask Lala

Laura Fogarty writes “Ask Lala” for the Stop Abuse Campaign. She is a mother, an advocate, and the author of two children’s abuse prevention books: I’M THE BOSS OF ME! and WE ARE JUST ALIKE!

Laura has an ACE score of 7.


$100 Million Judgment In Boy Scout Sexual Abuse Case In Kansas City

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An attorney for a now 36-year-old Kansas City man hopes he can persuade prosecutors to file criminal charges against a former Boy Scout leader who was the subject of a $100 million civil judgment.

Last week, a Jackson County judge ruled in a civil case that the victim, identified only as “John Doe,” had been abused by his former Scout leader, Scott Alan Bradshaw.

The transcript of that case is expected to become public Monday when the plaintiff’s attorney, Randall Rhodes, offers it to Jackson County District Attorney Jean Peters Baker and the U.S. attorney in Kansas City.

 

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1 in 5 New York Kids Are Sexually Abused. Help Prevent That

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9 out of 10 of the perpetrators are never brought to justice and never appear on sex offender registries.

They are protected by New York State laws.

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Daughter, 12, wrote etter to cops accusing him of abusing her sisters

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By Janet Tappin Coelho

 

The child claimed her two 11-and 15-year-old sisters were being repeatedly raped by their dad at their home on a rubber producing farm in Araguaiana, central west Brazil.

The plucky youngster made her desperate bid to save her sisters in a carefully handwritten letter, with all the sentences underlined. She gave it to her teacher in February who immediately alerted social services.

Cops reported how the depraved 40-year-old dad, allegedly put his oldest daughter on the pill so he would not get her pregnant.

In the letter revealed on Friday by investigators, the brave girl vowed she was telling the truth as she told of her siblings’ suffering at the hands of their warped parent.

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1 in 5 New York Kids Are Sexually Abused. Help Prevent That

The CDC reports that 1 in 5 children are sexually abused.

9 out of 10 of the perpetrators are never brought to justice and never appear on sex offender registries.

They are protected by New York State laws.

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Child Welfare Review Teams Under Microscope

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By JONATHAN BACH and WHITNEY M. WOODWORTH, Statesman Journal

 

SALEM, Ore. (AP) — Barely three days after 12-year-old Caden Berry of Keizer died, the head of Oregon’s child welfare agency ordered a full review of the agency’s interactions with his family.

Caden’s mother, Amy Marie Robertson, has been charged with murdering her son. Clyde Saiki, director of the state Department of Human Services, wanted to know if “system issues” may have prevented the state from saving the boy’s life.

DHS has publicly published reviews for at least 44 children since 2004, involving children the agency knew of who died or were severely injured. These Critical Incident Response Teams (CIRT) mostly consist of DHS staff and can be called together at the discretion of the DHS director.

That’s what happened in Caden’s case, though DHS hasn’t published a report on his death yet.

A Statesman Journal review of DHS’ published CIRT reports shows that even after investigators pointed out problems, the agency struggled to implement solutions.

The Statesman Journal’s review of the reports found:

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TV weatherman shares story of childhood sex abuse to help others

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The convergence of three random incidents brought the memory rushing back to Jason Gough.

The NewsChannel 13 meteorologist was living in Texas at the time, October 2004, and readying to return to his hometown of Albany. That was No. 1. He had just ordered a subscription to National Geographic’s kids’ magazine for his 8-year-old cousin, like the one he had at the same age. No. 2. And then “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown” came on TV, just like in 1980 on that brand-new gadget called a VCR at his aunt’s house in Troy …

 He turned ashen and started rocking, his wife, Jennifer, told him later. He doesn’t remember. He does remembering blurting out to her, knowing it for the first time, that he’d been sexually abused when he was a child. His aunt, now deceased, started abusing him when he was 8, and it lasted a couple of years.

Like many victims of sexual abuse, Gough suppressed the memory because it was too painful. He suppressed it a second time, when confronted with a new trauma: The Goughs, both 34 at the time, would soon learn that Jennifer had an aggressive form of breast cancer. Her health would take precedence over everything for a while.

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1 in 5 New York Kids Are Sexually Abused. Help Prevent That

The CDC reports that 1 in 5 children are sexually abused.

9 out of 10 of the perpetrators are never brought to justice and never appear on sex offender registries.

They are protected by New York State laws.

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Milo Yiannopoulos and the pedophiles we love

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In the flurry of fury surrounding Milo Yiannopoulos’s promotion of sex between adults and minors, it was easy to overlook what actually happened. More than a pregnant giraffe or the latest cute kitten video, a hyper partisan America united around a shared hatred of pedophiles.

Hatred of pedophiles seems like a good thing to unite around. Sexual abuse of children is an affront to both Conservative and Liberal values, but beyond that, it is something that no one wants to see happen to their children, their grandchildren, to any child they care about.

If we hate people who defend pedophila publically, it implies we have no tolerance for child sexual abuse. So one would assume that cases of child sexual abuse are prosecuted consistently and harshly.

Unfortunately, this isn’t true. If it was, there would be no statute of limitations on child sexual abuse. Parents would know how to protect their children.

News outlets would have no hesitation covering the stories about cases, and tips about protecting children from sexual abuse would be as widely distributed as tips about protecting children from the flu.

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1 in 5 New York Kids Are Sexually Abused. Help Prevent That

The CDC reports that 1 in 5 children are sexually abused.

9 out of 10 of the perpetrators are never brought to justice and never appear on sex offender registries.

They are protected by New York State laws.

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Toddler, teen charged in slaying lived in trailer with 7 others

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Investigators were dealing with a confusing domestic situation as they tried to determine what exactly happened to 2-year-old Ethan Bigham on March 10, and who inflicted the injuries that led to the toddler’s death four days later.

Ethan was one of nine people staying in the small mobile home at 2039 Hemstreet Road in Marilla, authorities said.

Ethan’s mother lived there with her four children and four other adults. Seventeen-year-old Devon M. VanDerWege was a recent arrival, residing there for less than a month, according to the Erie County Sheriff’s Office.

Now, the trailer is empty and VanDerWege has been charged with second-degree murder, accused of inflicting the blunt force trauma that left Ethan brain-dead. The boy died on Tuesday, after he was removed from life support at Women & Children’s Hospital.

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Opioid epidemic linked to childhood emotional abuse, study shows

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A study by researchers at the University of Vermont has revealed a link between adult opioid misuse and childhood emotional abuse, a new finding that suggests a rethinking of treatment approaches for opioid abusers.

To uncover the link to emotional abuse, the study, published in the current issue of Addictive Behaviors, analysed and cross referenced the results of a series of psychological tests administered to a sample of 84 individuals with a history of problem opioid use who had also suffered childhood trauma.

Earlier research has found that a high percentage of adults who abuse substances were maltreated in a variety of ways as children. But few previous studies have investigated the causes of opioid addiction specifically, and no earlier ones narrowed the link among opioid users to emotional abuse.

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1 in 5 New York Kids Are Sexually Abused. Help Prevent That

The CDC reports that 1 in 5 children are sexually abused.

9 out of 10 of the perpetrators are never brought to justice and never appear on sex offender registries.

They are protected by New York State laws.

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Slain toddler’s organs donated to little boy in Texas, Buffalo woman

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One of 2-year-old Ethan Bigham’s organs went to a little boy in Texas. Another part of him was transplanted into a 55-year-old Buffalo woman.

“At this point that’s what is keeping me going, knowing that my son is a miracle by helping others,” Ethan’s mother Heather Schoepflin said Tuesday.

Just hours earlier she kissed Ethan goodbye before he was wheeled into surgery to harvest his organs and tissue.

Seventeen-year-old babysitter Devon M. Vanderwege is accused of brutally beating the child Friday in the family’s Marilla trailer. He was charged Saturday with first-degree assault by the Erie County Sheriff’s Office. But he may soon face a second-degree murder charge, authorities said.

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Mother who suffocated her toddlers with plastic bags pleads guilty to murder

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A Maryland woman charged with killing her 3-year-old daughter and 1-year-old son has pleaded guilty to two counts of second-degree murder.

Sonya Spoon, 26, entered the plea Wednesday afternoon in Prince George’s County Circuit Court and faces 35 to 45 years in prison, according to the agreement announced by prosecutors.

Spoon’s case stems from the September 2014 suffocation of her children, Ayden Spoon and Kayla Thompson. Police and prosecutors say she covered her children’s heads with plastic bags wrapped with duct tape until they became unconscious. They later died at a hospital.

The killing of Spoon’s children came about a week after she had threatened to kill herself and harm her daughter. Police had escorted her to the hospital for an emergency psychiatric evaluation on Sept. 1 after she made the threats, but she was able to leave the hospital shortly after without medical staff or law enforcement reporting the verbal threats to child welfare officials.

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