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What are you talking abou...

What are you talking about?!

How about using proper terminology for a penis and vagina as well as breasts, and stop using “cute” nicknames for body parts? Having the correct words to identify body parts gives your children the language to own their bodies. Your children undoubtedly know the correct terminology for their arms, their knees, their ears and eyes and everything else but not their private parts. This shows them that our private parts are something to be ashamed about.

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Adrian Peterson and Ray R...

Adrian Peterson and Ray Rice: Mice or Men

The NFL suspended Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson for the rest of the season in response to his plea bargain taking responsibility for the criminal beating he inflicted on his four-year-old son. Adrian Peterson and the NFL Players Association immediately announced an appeal. Ray Rice already had a hearing in his effort to find legal technicalities to avoid full responsibility for his brutal attack on Janay Palmer that left her unconscious. If the players and the association understood what is important in these cases they would withdraw the appeals immediately.

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Mississippi Campaign To A...

Mississippi Campaign To Abolish Corporal Punishment Led By Kids

There are many forms of violence in both our communities and especially in our schools. Corporal punishment is still widely used as a form of discipline in many of the southern states. Youth from Nollie Jenkins Family Center addressed the Holmes County School Board urging them to end corporal punishment and use better alternatives that students can learn and grow from.

Part 4: Children SHOULD be heard afte...

About 58,000 children a year are ordered to have unsupervised contact with an abusive parent in the United States — over twice the yearly rate of new childhood cancer, according to the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence, a non-profit organization that promotes the ethical application of psychology

Part 4: Children SHOULD be heard after all
posted on: Sep 30, 2014 | author: admin

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Pet...

For those who are familiar with my story, you know that I am intimately familiar with how it feels to lose a child. I also know the pain of learning that your child was murdered as the result of a horribly abusive incident. I simply cannot understand how a man whose child was murdered in this violent way can justify raising his hand to another one of his children. As I read more and more about the story, I felt as though I had entered some strange alternate reality. I couldn’t believe how bold this man was to believe he would not have to face the law after what he did.

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Peterson
posted on: Sep 17, 2014 | author: admin

Making sense of chaos

There is a mathematical theory based in fractal geometry called “Chaos Theory”. At its most simplistic level, it says that if you look long enough and carefully at what looks like total chaos, patterns begin to emerge. This is exactly how I help my clients in coping with their court cases against an abuser.

Making sense of chaos
posted on: Sep 10, 2014 | author: admin

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims...

If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims of child abuse
posted on: Aug 23, 2014 | author: admin
What does safe feel like?

What does safe feel like?

posted on: Aug 20, 2014 | author: admin

Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.

A beautiful lie about child abuse

A beautiful lie about child abuse

posted on: Aug 13, 2014 | author: admin

We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.

Re-abusing children in court

Re-abusing children in court

posted on: Aug 7, 2014 | author: admin

Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges

Why is it legal to hit a child?

Why is it legal to hit a child?

posted on: Jul 26, 2014 | author: admin

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Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution

Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution

posted on: Jul 14, 2014 | author: admin

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The possibility of stopping abuse.

The possibility of stopping abuse.

posted on: Jul 3, 2014 | author: admin

It is common rhetoric to say we should end domestic violence. We may not be able to prevent all domestic violence tactics or even all domestic violence crimes, but we know how to quickly create a massive reduction in domestic violence crimes and especially domestic violence homicide. How do we get from here to there?

How stopping abuse saves billions

How stopping abuse saves billions

posted on: Jun 23, 2014 | author: admin

It is important for businesses to understand the enormous benefits the Quincy Solution provides to the business community. Today many are unaware of the money that can be saved by ending our tolerance for men’s abuse of women.

Is spanking, abuse?

Is spanking, abuse?

posted on: Jun 9, 2014 | author: admin

When we discuss spanking we often get the reaction that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. We agree with that. In most states it is perfectly legal to spank your child. This doesn’t make it good for children nor does it stop it from being abusive. We’re not seeking to judge we are seeking to educate. Spanking your children, even with love, actually especially with love, causes long term harm. There are better ways.
We like the way this article on Vox explains it.

Paying billions to be abused

Paying billions to be abused

posted on: May 19, 2014 | author: admin

Barry Goldstein shows how The Quincy Solution saves America $500 Billion every year by stopping domestic violence crime. The Academy on Violence and Abuse estimates that we spend between $333-750 billion per year on health costs made necessary by domestic violence- much of this is saved when communities implement The Quincy Solution though.

The Quincy Solution

The Quincy Solution

posted on: May 12, 2014 | author: admin

The Quincy Solution is a group of best practices that will dramatically reduce domestic violence crime and child abuse. It means that women and children can be safe in their homes. The Quincy Solution will make our society happier, healthier and richer. Battered women and children will have the opportunity to reach their potential free from the obstacles imposed by abusive men. And the Quincy Solution will save the United States $500 billion every year.

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

posted on: Mar 29, 2014 | author: admin

The health and safety of children must be the first priority

The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?

What’s your ACE score??

What’s your ACE score??

posted on: Mar 5, 2014 | author: admin

Barry Goldstein shows how research can stop domestic violence and save America’s taxpayers $500 billion every year.
One of the most important research studies about the impact of domestic violence on children began as a project to treat morbidly obese patients and help them lose substantial amounts of weight by eating no food but taking supplements to satisfy their nutritional needs. Some patients failed to lose the expected weight because they did not follow the protocol, but it was successful patients who were the ones to drop out of the program.

Suffer the children. Custody courts take no mercy

Suffer the children. Custody courts take no m...

posted on: Jan 4, 2014 | author: admin

An alarming percentage of the 74 million children in the United States are in jeopardy, living with physical abuse, sexual trauma, emotional pain, and/or neglect. Nearly 6 million of them are involved in reports of child abuse every year, although fewer and fewer are being protected. 22% live in poverty We asked leading domestic violence expert Barry Goldstein for the top 10 ways we could know the custody courts are broken.

Why do people abuse?

Why do people abuse?

posted on: Jul 23, 2013 | author: admin

This is no easy task, and experts have spent decades studying the nuances of the human psyche to figure out what makes a person abusive and why people abuse. Are there core personality traits which predispose people toward abuse, or is abuse a learned behavior?

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

posted on: Dec 9, 2011 | author: admin

Child abuse – The brain changer  Science now shows how the abused children develop differently and grow up with issues and problems that reach...

Go outside and play!

Go outside and play!

posted on: Nov 7, 2014 | author: admin

Our kids are out of shape, tuned out, and stressed out because they are missing a vital component of childhood – being outdoors.

Read our PostSecret interview with Frank Warren

Read our PostSecret interview with Frank Warr...

posted on: Nov 5, 2014 | author: admin

Frank Warren’s new book “The World of PostSecret” comes out November 3. It is a massive collection of secrets that provides a fabulous cross-section of what this project has revealed about humanity in the last ten years.

Piecing together the types of abuse

Piecing together the types of abuse

posted on: Nov 4, 2014 | author: admin

As we close out October, the national month of prevention and awareness for bullying and domestic violence, let’s take a look at how this two very distinct types of abuse are interrelated.

California Judicial Council

California Judicial Council

posted on: Nov 3, 2014 | author: admin

The Center for Judicial Excellence and CA Protective Parents Association helped bring California citizens to make public comments to the California Judicial Council on October 27 and 28 about abuses in CA courts. Perhaps they heard too much? Here’s what happened…

Mississippi Campaign To Abolish Corporal Punishment Led By Kids

Mississippi Campaign To Abolish Corporal Puni...

posted on: Nov 3, 2014 | author: admin

There are many forms of violence in both our communities and especially in our schools. Corporal punishment is still widely used as a form of discipline in many of the southern states. Youth from Nollie Jenkins Family Center addressed the Holmes County School Board urging them to end corporal punishment and use better alternatives that students can learn and grow from.

Attorney under attack for helping

Attorney under attack for helping

posted on: Oct 31, 2014 | author: admin

Fed up with family court judges ignoring evidence of child abuse, last year Louisiana attorney Nanine McCool announced she was running for state district judge. A week later she was fighting to keep her law license.

The Psychological Test That Fails Sexually Abused Children

The Psychological Test That Fails Sexually Ab...

posted on: Oct 30, 2014 | author: admin

This is the 11th in a series of articles about the treatment of abused children in the U.S. family court system. M.C. Moewe is a former criminal justice and investigative reporter for several newspapers with a B.A. in journalism from the University of North Texas. Email me at moewe.com

Child murderer sentenced

Child murderer sentenced

posted on: Oct 29, 2014 | author: admin

There can be no justice for the murder of Eain Brooks. His family is satisfied with the sentencing decision that was handed down yesterday- 50 to life- but it neither brings Eain back, nor does it do much to keep other children from experiencing a similar fate. That’s why his family is calling on Erie County to prevent future murders.

Documentary exposes $50 billion divorce industry

Documentary exposes $50 billion divorce indus...

posted on: Oct 29, 2014 | author: admin

This is the 10th in a series of articles about the treatment of abused children in the U.S. family court system. More money passes through family law courts than all the other courts combined. Corrupt judges have unchecked power over your personal finances and your childrens’ lives. The lawyers are likely contributing to the judge’s re-election campaign

Five tips on how to help a friend

Five tips on how to help a friend

posted on: Oct 28, 2014 | author: admin

For this month’s “How to help a Friend” series, I thought I’d put together a few simple but important ideas for how to support a friend who is experiencing intimate partner violence (IPV)

Judge: I Gave a Child Molester Custody of His Daughter

Judge: I Gave a Child Molester Custody of His...

posted on: Oct 28, 2014 | author: admin

This is the 9th in a series of articles about the treatment of abused children in the U.S. family court system. Safe Kids International founder Cindy Dumas organized the event. “Women’s and children’s rights to stay together and stay safe are being violated in epidemic proportions.”

Madison County NC. to end paddling in schools

Madison County NC. to end paddling in schools

posted on: Oct 27, 2014 | author: admin

Florida’s Marion County School Board voted this year to ban corporal punishment and we wanted to thank you for everything you did to make that happen! Thank you to everyone that wrote and called the school board, signed the petitions, shared the cause and showed support!

Hope For Erie County

Hope For Erie County

posted on: Oct 26, 2014 | author: admin

A series of child murders, including children CPS was asked to protect, has exposed a failed response system in Erie County, when it comes to child abuse and domestic violence. Men and women have committed many shocking domestic homicides. The county has experienced some horrifying shaken-baby cases. Staggering numbers of child abuse reports, causing caseworkers to deal with caseloads 5-to-6 times the professional standard have been tolerated.

When a child discloses abuse

When a child discloses abuse

posted on: Oct 24, 2014 | author: admin

Listen. Believe. React Responsibly. This is the advice we are given when it comes to what to do if a child discloses sexual abuse to us.

What if your friend is the abuser?

What if your friend is the abuser?

posted on: Oct 23, 2014 | author: admin

Today, we’re focusing on steps you can take if you know or suspect that a friend or someone else you know is being abusive toward their partner.

No One is Listening to the Children

No One is Listening to the Children

posted on: Oct 23, 2014 | author: admin

This is the 8th in a series of articles for Daily Kos about the treatment of abused children in the U.S. family court system. “To onlookers it was just a group of children playing in a sunny California park, but to child sexual abuse expert Dr. Claire Reeves it was the highlight of her career.”

“To watch them play and laugh like normal children — it was glorious,” said Reeves, 73, remembering a day when she met nine parents and 15 children for a going-away party before she moved from California to South Carolina in 2000.

School Paddling: The Long View

School Paddling: The Long View

posted on: Oct 23, 2014 | author: admin

Whipping, beating, and paddling of school children: Those who favor it would like us to believe that at some point in the very recent past, the utility of this practice was uncontested. But in fact the controversy over the appropriateness of corporal punishment of children is nearly as old as the written word.

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