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Women’s Equality Day 2016 – Protective Mothers Making History

On August 26 2016 women march on Washington DC to commemorate the day women were granted the right to vote. On this day when we celebrate women’s “equality”, it’s important to remember the double standard women are held to in family court, the women in prison for protecting their children, and the children the court still sentences to abuse.

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Women’s Equality Da...

Women’s Equality Day 2016 – Protective Mothers Making History

On August 26 2016 women march on Washington DC to commemorate the day women were granted the right to vote. On this day when we celebrate women’s “equality”, it’s important to remember the double standard women are held to in family court, the women in prison for protecting their children, and the children the court still sentences to abuse.

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Tackling Child Sexual Abu...

Tackling Child Sexual Abuse

Melissa Mahler of Pro Player Insiders and Andrew Willis of the Stop Abuse Campaign tackle the topic of child sexual abuse with the creator of the ACE study Dr. Felitti, survivor and advocate Matt Sandusky, survivor and filmmaker Johnna Janis, clinical & forensic psychologist Cheryl Arutt and former NFL player Al Chesley.

Surviving Myself

Staring into the bright clinical lights of the Very Intensive Care Unit in a hospital far from home. I’d swallowed 300 Tylenol PM and wished the world goodbye. Almost a week before. It was so predictable and therefore preventable. I tell the story for Child Abuse Prevention Month.

Surviving Myself
posted on: Mar 29, 2015 | author: admin

Abusers follow patterns

There is a mathematical theory based in fractal geometry called “Chaos Theory”. At its most simplistic level, it says that if you look long enough and carefully at what looks like total chaos, patterns begin to emerge. This is exactly how I help my clients in coping with their court cases against an abuser.

Abusers follow patterns
posted on: Sep 10, 2014 | author: admin

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims...

If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims of child abuse
posted on: Aug 23, 2014 | author: admin

What does safe feel like?

Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.

What does safe feel like?
posted on: Aug 20, 2014 | author: admin

A beautiful lie about child abuse

We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.

A beautiful lie about child abuse
posted on: Aug 13, 2014 | author: admin

Re-abusing children in court

Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges

Re-abusing children in court
posted on: Aug 7, 2014 | author: admin

Why hitting a child is legal

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Why hitting a child is legal
posted on: Jul 26, 2014 | author: admin

Stopping murders with The Quincy Solu...

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Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution
posted on: Jul 14, 2014 | author: admin

How stopping abuse saves billions

It is important for businesses to understand the enormous benefits the Quincy Solution provides to the business community. Today many are unaware of the money that can be saved by ending our tolerance for men’s abuse of women.

How stopping abuse saves billions
posted on: Jun 23, 2014 | author: admin

Is spanking, abuse?

When we discuss spanking we often get the reaction that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. We agree with that. In most states it is perfectly legal to spank your child. This doesn’t make it good for children nor does it stop it from being abusive. We’re not seeking to judge we are seeking to educate. Spanking your children, even with love, actually especially with love, causes long term harm. There are better ways.
We like the way this article on Vox explains it.

Is spanking, abuse?
posted on: Jun 9, 2014 | author: admin

Paying billions to be abused

Barry Goldstein shows how The Quincy Solution saves America $500 Billion every year by stopping domestic violence crime. The Academy on Violence and Abuse estimates that we spend between $333-750 billion per year on health costs made necessary by domestic violence- much of this is saved when communities implement The Quincy Solution though.

Paying billions to be abused
posted on: May 19, 2014 | author: admin

The Quincy Solution

The Quincy Solution is a group of best practices that will dramatically reduce domestic violence crime and child abuse. It means that women and children can be safe in their homes. The Quincy Solution will make our society happier, healthier and richer. Battered women and children will have the opportunity to reach their potential free from the obstacles imposed by abusive men. And the Quincy Solution will save the United States $500 billion every year.

The Quincy Solution
posted on: May 12, 2014 | author: admin

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

The health and safety of children must be the first priority

The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?

Sign and support the Safe Child Act
posted on: Mar 29, 2014 | author: admin

What’s your ACE score??

Barry Goldstein shows how research can stop domestic violence and save America’s taxpayers $500 billion every year.
One of the most important research studies about the impact of domestic violence on children began as a project to treat morbidly obese patients and help them lose substantial amounts of weight by eating no food but taking supplements to satisfy their nutritional needs. Some patients failed to lose the expected weight because they did not follow the protocol, but it was successful patients who were the ones to drop out of the program.

What’s your ACE score??
posted on: Mar 5, 2014 | author: admin

Suffer the children. Custody courts t...

An alarming percentage of the 74 million children in the United States are in jeopardy, living with physical abuse, sexual trauma, emotional pain, and/or neglect. Nearly 6 million of them are involved in reports of child abuse every year, although fewer and fewer are being protected. 22% live in poverty We asked leading domestic violence expert Barry Goldstein for the top 10 ways we could know the custody courts are broken.

Suffer the children. Custody courts take no mercy
posted on: Jan 4, 2014 | author: admin

Why do people abuse?

This is no easy task, and experts have spent decades studying the nuances of the human psyche to figure out what makes a person abusive and why people abuse. Are there core personality traits which predispose people toward abuse, or is abuse a learned behavior?

Why do people abuse?
posted on: Jul 23, 2013 | author: admin

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

Child abuse – The brain changer  Science now shows how the abused children develop differently and grow up with...

Child Abuse Changes the Brain
posted on: Dec 9, 2011 | author: admin

RIP Bobbi Kristina Brown

Today the world mourns the loss of Bobbi Kristina Brown, daughter of the late Whitney Houston. Bobbi was a victim of domestic violence several times over and in complex ways. The abusive relationship her mother endured harmed her, making it more likely she entered the abusive relationship that preceded her death.

RIP Bobbi Kristina Brown
posted on: Jul 26, 2015 | author: Melanie Blow

Review- Prosecuted but not Silenced

To most mothers, learning their child has been sexually abused is among their worst nightmares. And being unable to stop the abuse despite almost sixteen years of effort, and being robbed of almost all contact with that child is a nightmare most can’t comprehend.

Review- Prosecuted but not Silenced
posted on: Jul 26, 2015 | author: Melanie Blow

Healing is a Verb

Lisa Hocket lays out what our new healing section will include and how you can ensure it reaches you.

Healing is a Verb
posted on: Jul 24, 2015 | author: Lisa Hocket

The Tip of the Iceberg

Approximately 1,200 “Ineligible Volunteer Files” – which the Boy Scouts call the “Perversion Files” – were created by the BSA between roughly 1960 and 1985. The BSA has argued that the number of child molesters in Scouting is very small compared to the general population. The BSA’s argument is faulty on many levels. To the 12-year-old little boy abused by his Scoutmaster, it doesn’t matter if he is one of 100 or one of 1,000 – his damage is not a statistic.

The Tip of the Iceberg
posted on: Jul 21, 2015 | author: Melanie Blow

Reform must follow death of Aaden Mor...

In light of the death of Aaden Moreno, we must insist on real changes that make the health and safety of children the top priority of all custody decisions. Judges routinely sentence children to lives of abuse, and sometimes to death. We know how to change this. Representative Ed Vargas and Barry Goldstein comment.

Reform must follow death of Aaden Moreno
posted on: Jul 21, 2015 | author: Melanie Blow

Judge Asked Wrong Questions To Baby&#...

Many times it takes weeks, months or even years for the victim to muster the courage and strength to ask the courts to protect her from an abusive partner. The victim often struggles with fears of trusting the courts and the terror of the offender’s reaction when he finds out that a restraining order has been sought. Sadly, for Adrianna Oyola, when she applied for protection, she was let down by the court.

Judge Asked Wrong Questions To Baby’s Abused Mother
posted on: Jul 20, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Disclosure is a Process

If a child reports abuse, listen and believe, because the best chance for a positive outcome begins with that! With proper, early intervention, healing can, and does happen. Disclosing abuse is monumental in the life of a child, but please remember – disclosure is a process.

Disclosure is a Process
posted on: Jul 18, 2015 | author: Melanie Blow

President Obama needs a refresher on ...

It’s hard to feel sympathy for the plight of persecuted black men with Cosby constantly in the news — facing not a single criminal charge. There’s little chance people will ever care about the very real problem of injustices perpetrated against black men so long as Bill Cosby evades justice with the President’s tacit approval.

President Obama needs a refresher on rape law
posted on: Jul 16, 2015 | author: Melanie Blow

Keeping “An Open Secret” ...

There is a national trend to “protect” kids from learning about child sexual abuse. The Amy Berg documentary “An Open Secret”, which focuses on sexual abuse of child actors in Hollywood, is the latest victim of this over-zealous, faux “protection” craze. The movie has been slapped with an “R” rating, limiting the number of theaters that will show it and making it all but impossible for teens and pre-teens to see it. Children don’t need protection from a film discussing what they need protection from.

Keeping “An Open Secret” open to the public
posted on: Jul 16, 2015 | author: Melanie Blow

Kids vs Bureaucrats

Karey Cooper was disciplined for going the extra mile for a child. Read our story and sign our “thank you” to Karey for putting children above bureaucracy.

Kids vs Bureaucrats
posted on: Jul 13, 2015 | author: Melanie Blow

Healing From Abuse

Stop Abuse Campaign is launching a new section aimed squarely at topics of healing. Because taking action on your healing is critical to your long-term health, we decided it was time to have a separate area dedicated to educating our readers on the hard work of getting better.

Healing From Abuse
posted on: Jul 13, 2015 | author: Lisa Hocket

Reasonable Force

Massachusetts’ highest court ruled a couple of weeks ago that parents may not be held criminally liable for the use of “reasonable” force in disciplining their children. What exactly is “reasonable force” Reasonable to whom? And doesn’t the pairing of “reasonable” and “force” sound like a ludicrous oxymoron?

Reasonable Force
posted on: Jul 10, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Michigan Judge Takes Retaliation to N...

Judge Lisa Gorcyca sent three children, aged 9, 10 and 15 to juvenile hall to punish them for not wanting to visit a father they believe assaulted and abused their mother. In her remarks from the bench, the judge demonstrated that she does not have the needed domestic violence training and the missing knowledge can cause horrific consequences to the children the court is supposed to protect.

Michigan Judge Takes Retaliation to New Extreme
posted on: Jul 9, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Courts vs Kids

The Stop Abuse Campaign is pleased to present a series of articles that provide a helpful new way to understand some of the problems in our custody courts. Our Director of Research, Barry Goldstein proposes that the most significant bias involves practices that encourage courts to place children at risk.

Courts vs Kids
posted on: Jul 9, 2015 | author: ajswillis1

RIP Aaden Moreno

As a nation, we collectively mourn the death of 7 month old Aaden Moreno, drowned in the Connecticut River in Middletown by his abusive father. Communities are always full of questions when a child dies. The two questions Connecticut should be focused on are “how did this happen?” and “how do we prevent it the next time?” We know the answer to both and know these painful tragedies can be prevented.

RIP Aaden Moreno
posted on: Jul 8, 2015 | author: ajswillis1

Donald Trump, “Who is doing the...

On a recent CNN interview, Donald Trump asked the reporter, “Who is doing the raping?” How can he protect women and children from rape and sexual assaults as President if he doesn’t even know who is committing these atrocities? Is there anything more important for a President than making sure our children are safe from sexual predators?

Donald Trump, “Who is doing the raping?”
posted on: Jul 7, 2015 | author: ajswillis1

The Right to do What’s Right

The Connecticut Supreme Court just upheld a million-dollar verdict against a priest, and upheld the constitutionality of Statute of Limitations reforms for child sexual abuse. Child sexual abuse costs taxpayers huge sums of money- over $200,000 in direct costs per survivor. Shifting the cost from taxpayers onto guilty parties and negligent institutions makes sense. It protects children, not their rapists.

The Right to do What’s Right
posted on: Jul 6, 2015 | author: ajswillis1

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