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Judge: I Gave a Child Mol...

Judge: I Gave a Child Molester Custody of His Daughter

Despite a mother’s cry for help, San Diego Judge DeAnn Salcido signed a court order in 2003 giving a father custody of his six-year-old daughter. He still had custody six years later when he was arrested and convicted of child molestation.

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Child Murderer Sentenced

Child Murderer Sentenced

There can be no justice for the murder of Eain Brooks. His family is satisfied with the sentencing decision that was handed down yesterday- 50 to life- but it neither brings Eain back, nor does it do much to keep other children from experiencing a similar fate. That’s why his family is calling on Erie County to prevent future murders.

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Madison County NC. to end...

Madison County NC. to end paddling in schools

Florida’s Marion County School Board voted this year to ban corporal punishment and we wanted to thank you for everything you did to make that happen! Thank you to everyone that wrote and called the school board, signed the petitions, shared the cause and showed support!

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Pet...

For those who are familiar with my story, you know that I am intimately familiar with how it feels to lose a child. I also know the pain of learning that your child was murdered as the result of a horribly abusive incident. I simply cannot understand how a man whose child was murdered in this violent way can justify raising his hand to another one of his children. As I read more and more about the story, I felt as though I had entered some strange alternate reality. I couldn’t believe how bold this man was to believe he would not have to face the law after what he did.

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Peterson
posted on: Sep 17, 2014 | author: admin

Yes, you can hit my child

The Darlington County School District policy permits administrators to paddle students with permission from the child’s parent or guardian.

Yes, you can hit my child
posted on: Sep 16, 2014 | author: admin

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims...

If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims of child abuse
posted on: Aug 23, 2014 | author: admin

What does safe feel like?

Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.

What does safe feel like?
posted on: Aug 20, 2014 | author: admin
A beautiful lie about child abuse

A beautiful lie about child abuse

posted on: Aug 13, 2014 | author: admin

We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.

Bad judges are re-abusing children! So what?

Bad judges are re-abusing children! So what?

posted on: Aug 7, 2014 | author: admin

Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges

Why is it legal to hit children?

Why is it legal to hit children?

posted on: Jul 26, 2014 | author: admin

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Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution

Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution

posted on: Jul 14, 2014 | author: admin

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How stopping abuse saves billions

How stopping abuse saves billions

posted on: Jun 23, 2014 | author: admin

It is important for businesses to understand the enormous benefits the Quincy Solution provides to the business community. Today many are unaware of the money that can be saved by ending our tolerance for men’s abuse of women.

Is spanking, abuse?

Is spanking, abuse?

posted on: Jun 9, 2014 | author: admin

When we discuss spanking we often get the reaction that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. We agree with that. In most states it is perfectly legal to spank your child. This doesn’t make it good for children nor does it stop it from being abusive. We’re not seeking to judge we are seeking to educate. Spanking your children, even with love, actually especially with love, causes long term harm. There are better ways.
We like the way this article on Vox explains it.

Paying billions to be abused

Paying billions to be abused

posted on: May 19, 2014 | author: admin

Barry Goldstein shows how The Quincy Solution saves America $500 Billion every year by stopping domestic violence crime. The Academy on Violence and Abuse estimates that we spend between $333-750 billion per year on health costs made necessary by domestic violence- much of this is saved when communities implement The Quincy Solution though.

The Quincy Solution

The Quincy Solution

posted on: May 12, 2014 | author: admin

The Quincy Solution is a group of best practices that will dramatically reduce domestic violence crime and child abuse. It means that women and children can be safe in their homes. The Quincy Solution will make our society happier, healthier and richer. Battered women and children will have the opportunity to reach their potential free from the obstacles imposed by abusive men. And the Quincy Solution will save the United States $500 billion every year.

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

posted on: Mar 29, 2014 | author: admin

The health and safety of children must be the first priority

The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?

What’s your ACE score??

What’s your ACE score??

posted on: Mar 5, 2014 | author: admin

Barry Goldstein shows how research can stop domestic violence and save America’s taxpayers $500 billion every year.
One of the most important research studies about the impact of domestic violence on children began as a project to treat morbidly obese patients and help them lose substantial amounts of weight by eating no food but taking supplements to satisfy their nutritional needs. Some patients failed to lose the expected weight because they did not follow the protocol, but it was successful patients who were the ones to drop out of the program.

Custody Court Crisis

Custody Court Crisis

posted on: Jan 4, 2014 | author: admin

An alarming percentage of the 74 million children in the United States are in jeopardy, living with physical abuse, sexual trauma, emotional pain, and/or neglect. Nearly 6 million of them are involved in reports of child abuse every year, although fewer and fewer are being protected. 22% live in poverty We asked leading domestic violence expert Barry Goldstein for the top 10 ways we could know the custody courts are broken.

Why do people abuse?

Why do people abuse?

posted on: Jul 23, 2013 | author: admin

This is no easy task, and experts have spent decades studying the nuances of the human psyche to figure out what makes a person abusive and why people abuse. Are there core personality traits which predispose people toward abuse, or is abuse a learned behavior?

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

posted on: Dec 9, 2011 | author: admin

Child abuse – The brain changer  Science now shows how the abused children develop differently and grow up with issues and problems that reach...

A Safe October

A Safe October

posted on: Oct 2, 2014 | author: admin

Aside from the standard “bring a flashlight, don’t eat unwrapped candy” variety of October tips, we have a few more to offer for you and your littles to keep this beautiful season beautiful.

Part 4: Children SHOULD be heard after all

Part 4: Children SHOULD be heard after all

posted on: Sep 30, 2014 | author: admin

About 58,000 children a year are ordered to have unsupervised contact with an abusive parent in the United States — over twice the yearly rate of new childhood cancer, according to the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence, a non-profit organization that promotes the ethical application of psychology

Part 3: Courts condemn children to more abuse

Part 3: Courts condemn children to more abuse

posted on: Sep 30, 2014 | author: admin

This is only my third story at Daily Kos on the topic, and already I have started hearing from some of these parents and the people close to them. I can offer them little hope that anyone in the media will do anything about their situation.
For this reason, I am urging them to come to this site and tell their story directly.

Welcome to the “Shared Parenting” Showroom!

Welcome to the “Shared Parenting” Showroom!...

posted on: Sep 29, 2014 | author: admin

We just find ways to keep taking the bitches–we mean, mothers–we mean, co-buyers–to court and eventually, in the coolest switcheroo ever, manipulate the situation until she loses her dearest investment in life: her kids.

Is Incest Funny?

Is Incest Funny?

posted on: Sep 28, 2014 | author: admin

Melanie Blow, an incest survivor, sent an open letter to Jimmy Kimmel about a joke he told about incest.
Describing incest as a “nightmare you may wake from, but never forget” Melanie defends Jimmy’s right to tell incest jokes, even bad ones, because incest is so common.

Special report on “smacking”

Special report on “smacking”

posted on: Sep 27, 2014 | author: admin

Physical punishment has no place in a child’s life at any age, whether it’s a tap on the hand or a slap on the leg as it causes them confusion and to fear the person they love the most and to internalize a need to try and please this unpredictable, scary person or to be stronger and scarier than them one day in the future, or to visit pain upon someone else in order to feel less powerless.

NFL Interview

NFL Interview

posted on: Sep 26, 2014 | author: admin

Melissa Mahler of Pro Player Insiders hosted a roundtable discussion to talk about domestic abuse, how the league and commissioner Roger Goodell have handled the domestic violence cases, the Quincy Solution and what the league, players and all of us can do to help stop abuse.

Ray Rice: Through a different lens

Ray Rice: Through a different lens

posted on: Sep 26, 2014 | author: admin

Members of the Traumatic Brain Injury and Intimate Partner Violence Research Group at the University of North Carolina at Greensboro, an interdisciplinary group of researchers who study the risk of traumatic brain injury (TBI) among survivors of domestic violence, watched the Ray Rice domestic violence videos through a different lens. They see an example of one of the many types of domestic violence that places the victim at risk of experiencing a TBI – and a dangerous double standard within the NFL.

Part 2: Family court Judges are out of control

Part 2: Family court Judges are out of contro...

posted on: Sep 25, 2014 | author: admin

This is the second in a series of articles for Daily Kos about the treatment of abused children in the U.S. family court system.

Good news on NFL

Good news on NFL

posted on: Sep 23, 2014 | author: admin

Cris Carter believes there is no place in the home for corporal punishment and no place for abusers on an NFL field and in response to Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson being indicted in a child injury case, Cris had this to say:

Protecting Abused Children from the Court System

Protecting Abused Children from the Court Sys...

posted on: Sep 23, 2014 | author: admin

My first job after college was as a crime reporter for the Fort Worth Star-Telegram. Back then, I had noted that violence inside a family home was hard to write about. I led a team of reporters who investigated how domestic violence was handled by authorities in Fort Worth.

It’s not about the steak!

It’s not about the steak!

posted on: Sep 22, 2014 | author: admin

If you could have read my mind at the moment I read that, you would have heard it screaming, “It’s not about the steak!!!!!!!!” In my view, the reason that man beat his partner had nothing to do with the way she cooked his steak, and it had everything to do with power and control.

Little Children

Little Children

posted on: Sep 22, 2014 | author: admin

Our present level of illness is based on our long tolerance for domestic violence and child abuse. This means that the ACE research provides a glorious opportunity to substantially reduce many common and awful diseases that ruin and shorten so many lives. It is truly a major medical breakthrough that has the potential to transform our lives.

Guilty As Charged

Guilty As Charged

posted on: Sep 21, 2014 | author: admin

Trials for children killed by abuse come and go – there are about 1600 of them each year in the United States, and there have been a startling number of them in Erie County NY in the last three years. Some result in convictions, some don’t. But with Eain Brooks, the community’s message of stopping child abuse will continue after the court room clears.

Shedding light on a dark spot

Shedding light on a dark spot

posted on: Sep 20, 2014 | author: admin

I am the artistic director of the global grassroots theatre company, Price of Silence. We strive to bring courage to women to stand up and shout out for real change. On stage we bring to life the violence that women face all over the world for our audience to live and breathe activism in action.

Roger Goodell

Roger Goodell

posted on: Sep 17, 2014 | author: admin

The attack on his partner by Ray Rice has probably drawn more media coverage than any domestic violence story since O. J. Simpson. Ray Rice and Roger Goodell have been severely criticized for their actions and in fairness they would be the first ones to agree that their actions were wrong.

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