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RIP Jermyle Campbell

RIP Jermyle Campbell

The police and the Department of Children’s Services had a long history with the family of Jermyle Campbell. These same systemic breakdowns sentence five children every day to a preventable death. As ugly as these mistakes are, we need to look at them, and learn from them, so we can keep kids from dying.

RECENT FROM The Quincy Solution

RIP Jermyle Campbell

RIP Jermyle Campbell

The police and the Department of Children’s Services had a long history with the family of Jermyle Campbell. These same systemic breakdowns sentence five children every day to a preventable death. As ugly as these mistakes are, we need to look at them, and learn from them, so we can keep kids from dying.

RECENT FROM Pro Player Insiders

Tackling Child Sexual Abu...

Tackling Child Sexual Abuse

Melissa Mahler of Pro Player Insiders and Andrew Willis of the Stop Abuse Campaign tackle the topic of child sexual abuse with the creator of the ACE study Dr. Felitti, survivor and advocate Matt Sandusky, survivor and filmmaker Johnna Janis, clinical & forensic psychologist Cheryl Arutt and former NFL player Al Chesley.

Surviving Myself

Staring into the bright clinical lights of the Very Intensive Care Unit in a hospital far from home. I’d swallowed 300 Tylenol PM and wished the world goodbye. Almost a week before. It was so predictable and therefore preventable. I tell the story for Child Abuse Prevention Month.

Surviving Myself
posted on: Mar 29, 2015 | author: admin

Abusers follow patterns

There is a mathematical theory based in fractal geometry called “Chaos Theory”. At its most simplistic level, it says that if you look long enough and carefully at what looks like total chaos, patterns begin to emerge. This is exactly how I help my clients in coping with their court cases against an abuser.

Abusers follow patterns
posted on: Sep 10, 2014 | author: admin

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims...

If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims of child abuse
posted on: Aug 23, 2014 | author: admin

What does safe feel like?

Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.

What does safe feel like?
posted on: Aug 20, 2014 | author: admin

A beautiful lie about child abuse

We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.

A beautiful lie about child abuse
posted on: Aug 13, 2014 | author: admin

Re-abusing children in court

Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges

Re-abusing children in court
posted on: Aug 7, 2014 | author: admin

Why hitting a child is legal

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Why hitting a child is legal
posted on: Jul 26, 2014 | author: admin

Stopping murders with The Quincy Solu...

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Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution
posted on: Jul 14, 2014 | author: admin

How stopping abuse saves billions

It is important for businesses to understand the enormous benefits the Quincy Solution provides to the business community. Today many are unaware of the money that can be saved by ending our tolerance for men’s abuse of women.

How stopping abuse saves billions
posted on: Jun 23, 2014 | author: admin

Is spanking, abuse?

When we discuss spanking we often get the reaction that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. We agree with that. In most states it is perfectly legal to spank your child. This doesn’t make it good for children nor does it stop it from being abusive. We’re not seeking to judge we are seeking to educate. Spanking your children, even with love, actually especially with love, causes long term harm. There are better ways.
We like the way this article on Vox explains it.

Is spanking, abuse?
posted on: Jun 9, 2014 | author: admin

Paying billions to be abused

Barry Goldstein shows how The Quincy Solution saves America $500 Billion every year by stopping domestic violence crime. The Academy on Violence and Abuse estimates that we spend between $333-750 billion per year on health costs made necessary by domestic violence- much of this is saved when communities implement The Quincy Solution though.

Paying billions to be abused
posted on: May 19, 2014 | author: admin

The Quincy Solution

The Quincy Solution is a group of best practices that will dramatically reduce domestic violence crime and child abuse. It means that women and children can be safe in their homes. The Quincy Solution will make our society happier, healthier and richer. Battered women and children will have the opportunity to reach their potential free from the obstacles imposed by abusive men. And the Quincy Solution will save the United States $500 billion every year.

The Quincy Solution
posted on: May 12, 2014 | author: admin

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

The health and safety of children must be the first priority

The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?

Sign and support the Safe Child Act
posted on: Mar 29, 2014 | author: admin

What’s your ACE score??

Barry Goldstein shows how research can stop domestic violence and save America’s taxpayers $500 billion every year.
One of the most important research studies about the impact of domestic violence on children began as a project to treat morbidly obese patients and help them lose substantial amounts of weight by eating no food but taking supplements to satisfy their nutritional needs. Some patients failed to lose the expected weight because they did not follow the protocol, but it was successful patients who were the ones to drop out of the program.

What’s your ACE score??
posted on: Mar 5, 2014 | author: admin

Suffer the children. Custody courts t...

An alarming percentage of the 74 million children in the United States are in jeopardy, living with physical abuse, sexual trauma, emotional pain, and/or neglect. Nearly 6 million of them are involved in reports of child abuse every year, although fewer and fewer are being protected. 22% live in poverty We asked leading domestic violence expert Barry Goldstein for the top 10 ways we could know the custody courts are broken.

Suffer the children. Custody courts take no mercy
posted on: Jan 4, 2014 | author: admin

Why do people abuse?

This is no easy task, and experts have spent decades studying the nuances of the human psyche to figure out what makes a person abusive and why people abuse. Are there core personality traits which predispose people toward abuse, or is abuse a learned behavior?

Why do people abuse?
posted on: Jul 23, 2013 | author: admin

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

Child abuse – The brain changer  Science now shows how the abused children develop differently and grow up with...

Child Abuse Changes the Brain
posted on: Dec 9, 2011 | author: admin

Lessons to learn from Caitlyn Jenner

Whatever our personal views on Bruce Jenner and his transformation, what if we could find a way that someone else’s sexual orientation or gender or life choices weren’t an issue for our kids as they grow up and grow older?

Lessons to learn from Caitlyn Jenner
posted on: Jun 5, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Conservative Leaders Unintentionally ...

If you believe that stopping abortions is such a vital moral issue that it justifies a fundamental interference with woman’s health and privacy, why wouldn’t you seek to prevent abortions by implementing proven practices to improve women’s lives by taking effective actions to prevent child sexual abuse?

Conservative Leaders Unintentionally Promote Abortions
posted on: Jun 5, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Michigan NOW Endorses The Quincy Solu...

Michigan NOW members unanimously voted to endorse the Quincy Solution and its model legislation, The Safe Child Act, for passage in Michigan.

Michigan NOW Endorses The Quincy Solution
posted on: Jun 2, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

R.I.P. Joseph “Beau” Biden

Children’s advocates from across the nation are mourning the death of Joseph “Beau” Biden, who used his short political career to establish some of the most complete child protection laws in the nation in his home state of Delaware.

R.I.P.  Joseph “Beau” Biden
posted on: May 31, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

What Matters To Me | Matt Josepher

Mind Grappling Films and the Matthew Corozine Acting Studio in collaboration with Stand Up For Passion present: “What Matters to Me” | Here storyteller Matthew Josepher, a native New Yorker born addicted to heroin, introduces himself.

What Matters To Me  |  Matt Josepher
posted on: May 31, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

What Do I do If I See Someone Hitting...

Knowing that I speak openly about the need to end spanking, people often ask me for advice on how respond to a parent who threatens or spanks their child in public. Their fear of course, is the offending parent will strike back with the classic response, “mind your own business” or “who the hell are you to tell me how to deal with my child!” And then later on, is the child the worse for it?

What Do I do If I See Someone Hitting A Child
posted on: May 30, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Incest Blame Game

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Incest Blame Game
posted on: May 29, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Judge grants children to pedophile fa...

Last year, an Oklahoma family court judge ordered that a six-year-old girl’s father be given sole custody even though he’s a registered sex offender. The decision was so egregious it made headlines around the world, but experts in protecting children call it just another example of judicial sex trafficking in the United States

Judge grants children to pedophile father
posted on: May 29, 2015 | author: admin

5 Things Being a Survivor Has Taught ...

After years of heartache and loneliness, I realized the hurt my abuser left me wasn’t mine. So, I began the process of giving it back. From that moment, my life changed forever.

5 Things Being a Survivor Has Taught Me
posted on: May 29, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

All Good Parents Want Safe and Health...

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All Good Parents Want Safe and Healthy Children
posted on: May 27, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Why Cancelling the Duggars Is a Mista...

In this horrible tragedy lies an opportunity to deal with the issue of child sexual abuse, an opportunity to shed light on a crime that normally we keep hidden in the shadows.

Why Cancelling the Duggars Is a Mistake
posted on: May 26, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Chicago Bears Release Ray McDonald Af...

Chicago Bears owner, George McCaskey attempted to judge whether he could trust Ray McDonald to avoid further domestic violence offenses just by meeting with him and judging his sincerity. This is the same approach routinely relied on by psychologists when they perform an evaluation. The problem is that abusers are skilled manipulators.

Chicago Bears Release Ray McDonald After Still Another DV Offense
posted on: May 26, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Domestic Violence Safety Planning

Based on the Safety Strategies booklet, we offer the following safety planning suggestions to help people who are currently facing safety risks due to a current or former abusive relationship

Domestic Violence Safety Planning
posted on: May 26, 2015 | author: admin

A Tale of Survival from a Victim on t...

While pregnant, Gretchen experienced the first of many episodes of physical abuse. She was punched in the stomach. Increasingly violent attacks soon followed. In one dramatic attack, Gretchen was strangled nearly to death on their bed while her children were in the next room.

A Tale of Survival from a Victim on the Front Lines
posted on: May 24, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Barry Goldstein Receives Lifetime Ach...

Barry Goldstein was awarded a Lifetime Achievement Award at this year’s Battered Womens Custody Conference. A grateful line of mothers and children thanked him for his dedication.

Barry Goldstein Receives Lifetime Achievement Award.
posted on: May 24, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Congratulations Kelly Rutherford

Kelly Rutherford has been granted temporary sole custody of her two children.
On Sunday it was revealed a California judge has ordered that the 46-year-old actress’ two children – Hermes, aged eight, and Helena, aged five – be brought back to the United States from Monaco.

Congratulations Kelly Rutherford
posted on: May 24, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Knowledge Is Power

Like it or not, acknowledge it or don’t, child abuse affects the world around us – each and every one of us. Child abuse creates a ripple effect, and spreads from both the abused and the abuser, impacting our world in ways we have only begun to understand. The more we know about child abuse, the better we can stop it.

Knowledge Is Power
posted on: May 23, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

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