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Kenneth White R.I.P.

Kenneth White R.I.P.

One year, two months and two days ago, Carolyn Spring’s great grandson Eain Brooks died from traumatic brain injuries, caused by his mother’s boyfriend, Matthew Kuzdzal. He was convicted of murder and given a long sentence. Now she works to spare other families the agony she has been through.

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Domestic Violence Cop Kil...

Domestic Violence Cop Killer

The story occurs in the context of a huge national story about racism and the killing of unarmed black civilians by police in Ferguson, Missouri and Staten Island. Nothing should take away from the courage and sacrifice made by the police officers who were murdered. Barry Goldstein discusses the domestic violence connection to this tragedy because it is often overlooked.

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Mississippi Campaign To A...

Mississippi Campaign To Abolish Corporal Punishment Led By Kids

There are many forms of violence in both our communities and especially in our schools. Corporal punishment is still widely used as a form of discipline in many of the southern states. Youth from Nollie Jenkins Family Center addressed the Holmes County School Board urging them to end corporal punishment and use better alternatives that students can learn and grow from.

Part 4: Children SHOULD be heard afte...

About 58,000 children a year are ordered to have unsupervised contact with an abusive parent in the United States — over twice the yearly rate of new childhood cancer, according to the Leadership Council on Child Abuse and Interpersonal Violence, a non-profit organization that promotes the ethical application of psychology

Part 4: Children SHOULD be heard after all
posted on: Sep 30, 2014 | author: admin

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Pet...

For those who are familiar with my story, you know that I am intimately familiar with how it feels to lose a child. I also know the pain of learning that your child was murdered as the result of a horribly abusive incident. I simply cannot understand how a man whose child was murdered in this violent way can justify raising his hand to another one of his children. As I read more and more about the story, I felt as though I had entered some strange alternate reality. I couldn’t believe how bold this man was to believe he would not have to face the law after what he did.

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Peterson
posted on: Sep 17, 2014 | author: admin

Abusers follow patterns

There is a mathematical theory based in fractal geometry called “Chaos Theory”. At its most simplistic level, it says that if you look long enough and carefully at what looks like total chaos, patterns begin to emerge. This is exactly how I help my clients in coping with their court cases against an abuser.

Abusers follow patterns
posted on: Sep 10, 2014 | author: admin

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims...

If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims of child abuse
posted on: Aug 23, 2014 | author: admin
What does safe feel like?

What does safe feel like?

posted on: Aug 20, 2014 | author: admin

Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.

A beautiful lie about child abuse

A beautiful lie about child abuse

posted on: Aug 13, 2014 | author: admin

We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.

Re-abusing children in court

Re-abusing children in court

posted on: Aug 7, 2014 | author: admin

Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges

Why hitting a child is legal

Why hitting a child is legal

posted on: Jul 26, 2014 | author: admin

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Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution

Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution

posted on: Jul 14, 2014 | author: admin

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Defeating domestic abuse: The Quincy Solution

Defeating domestic abuse: The Quincy Solution

posted on: Jul 3, 2014 | author: admin

It is common rhetoric to say we should end domestic violence. We may not be able to prevent all domestic violence tactics or even all domestic violence crimes, but we know how to quickly create a massive reduction in domestic violence crimes and especially domestic violence homicide. How do we get from here to there?

How stopping abuse saves billions

How stopping abuse saves billions

posted on: Jun 23, 2014 | author: admin

It is important for businesses to understand the enormous benefits the Quincy Solution provides to the business community. Today many are unaware of the money that can be saved by ending our tolerance for men’s abuse of women.

Is spanking, abuse?

Is spanking, abuse?

posted on: Jun 9, 2014 | author: admin

When we discuss spanking we often get the reaction that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. We agree with that. In most states it is perfectly legal to spank your child. This doesn’t make it good for children nor does it stop it from being abusive. We’re not seeking to judge we are seeking to educate. Spanking your children, even with love, actually especially with love, causes long term harm. There are better ways.
We like the way this article on Vox explains it.

Paying billions to be abused

Paying billions to be abused

posted on: May 19, 2014 | author: admin

Barry Goldstein shows how The Quincy Solution saves America $500 Billion every year by stopping domestic violence crime. The Academy on Violence and Abuse estimates that we spend between $333-750 billion per year on health costs made necessary by domestic violence- much of this is saved when communities implement The Quincy Solution though.

The Quincy Solution

The Quincy Solution

posted on: May 12, 2014 | author: admin

The Quincy Solution is a group of best practices that will dramatically reduce domestic violence crime and child abuse. It means that women and children can be safe in their homes. The Quincy Solution will make our society happier, healthier and richer. Battered women and children will have the opportunity to reach their potential free from the obstacles imposed by abusive men. And the Quincy Solution will save the United States $500 billion every year.

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

posted on: Mar 29, 2014 | author: admin

The health and safety of children must be the first priority

The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?

What’s your ACE score??

What’s your ACE score??

posted on: Mar 5, 2014 | author: admin

Barry Goldstein shows how research can stop domestic violence and save America’s taxpayers $500 billion every year.
One of the most important research studies about the impact of domestic violence on children began as a project to treat morbidly obese patients and help them lose substantial amounts of weight by eating no food but taking supplements to satisfy their nutritional needs. Some patients failed to lose the expected weight because they did not follow the protocol, but it was successful patients who were the ones to drop out of the program.

Suffer the children. Custody courts take no mercy

Suffer the children. Custody courts take no m...

posted on: Jan 4, 2014 | author: admin

An alarming percentage of the 74 million children in the United States are in jeopardy, living with physical abuse, sexual trauma, emotional pain, and/or neglect. Nearly 6 million of them are involved in reports of child abuse every year, although fewer and fewer are being protected. 22% live in poverty We asked leading domestic violence expert Barry Goldstein for the top 10 ways we could know the custody courts are broken.

Why do people abuse?

Why do people abuse?

posted on: Jul 23, 2013 | author: admin

This is no easy task, and experts have spent decades studying the nuances of the human psyche to figure out what makes a person abusive and why people abuse. Are there core personality traits which predispose people toward abuse, or is abuse a learned behavior?

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

posted on: Dec 9, 2011 | author: admin

Child abuse – The brain changer  Science now shows how the abused children develop differently and grow up with issues and problems that reach...

He Never Hit Me

He Never Hit Me

posted on: Nov 23, 2014 | author: admin

I set a benchmark. The red line I wouldn’t cross. The minute he hit me, I would leave. But the truth is, I know I wouldn’t have left then either. I would have rationalized that in hitting me, he would realize how out of hand things were. Everything would change now. I wouldn’t have left.

Making the right holiday memories

Making the right holiday memories

posted on: Nov 21, 2014 | author: admin

With a little preparation and thought we can create a happy, healthy, wonderful holiday season for ourselves and our littles.

NFL right to make Peterson pay a steep professional price

NFL right to make Peterson pay a steep profes...

posted on: Nov 21, 2014 | author: admin

Great piece by Tara Sullivan of the New Jersey record that quotes Barry Goldstein’s recent article laying out what Ray Rice and Adrian Peterson should do.

“Adrian Peterson’s son will recover from his physical injuries, but far more critical will be the long-term harm from the fear and stress caused by the father’s beating,”

Adrian Peterson and Ray Rice: Mice or Men

Adrian Peterson and Ray Rice: Mice or Men

posted on: Nov 18, 2014 | author: admin

The NFL suspended Minnesota Vikings running back Adrian Peterson for the rest of the season in response to his plea bargain taking responsibility for the criminal beating he inflicted on his four-year-old son. Adrian Peterson and the NFL Players Association immediately announced an appeal. Ray Rice already had a hearing in his effort to find legal technicalities to avoid full responsibility for his brutal attack on Janay Palmer that left her unconscious. If the players and the association understood what is important in these cases they would withdraw the appeals immediately.

Divorce courts favor money, power and influence

Divorce courts favor money, power and influen...

posted on: Nov 17, 2014 | author: admin

Fit, loving, capable parents like Tameka Raymond are losing custody of their children every day in family courts for the same reason that Tameka lost custody; their cases are tainted by money, power and influence.

Groomed to be abused

Groomed to be abused

posted on: Nov 17, 2014 | author: admin

Three years ago today, a grand jury presentment revealed the unknown horrors of a prominent figure in the Penn State community. The charges stemmed from the stories of eight individuals, with many more following in their footsteps.
As time distances itself from the unveiling of the Jerry Sandusky child sex abuse case, their stories haven’t changed. Today, we remember them and others subjected to all forms of institutional abuse.

A mother’s grief and the death of Prince Rams

A mother’s grief and the death of Princ...

posted on: Nov 15, 2014 | author: admin

Hera McLeod will always be Prince’s mother, but she will never mother him again. It’s easy to criticize a judge who never should have been in a position to take Prince’s life. But Barry Goldstein blames the father, and he blames the broken custody court system.

Mommy what’s a precedent?

Mommy what’s a precedent?

posted on: Nov 14, 2014 | author: admin

We seem to make protecting children far more complicated than it needs to be. Most of it is just common sense, and really there is not a list of rules we can apply to every situation.

Psychologist legal settlement

Psychologist legal settlement

posted on: Nov 12, 2014 | author: admin

The mother of a 15-month-old boy who died while on a visit to his father in 2012 will be paid a $550,000 wrongful death settlement from the psychologist who testified that it was safe to leave the boy with his father, Joaquin Rams. How does this effect other cases? Barry Goldstein comments.

Intimate Partner Violence, Stigma, & The Media: Series Introduction

Intimate Partner Violence, Stigma, & The...

posted on: Nov 12, 2014 | author: admin

We need a sea change in how women are portrayed by the media…A strong message that domestic violence is not acceptable needs to be conveyed backed up by punishments for the perpetrators. “ ~ Domestic violence survivorIntimate Partner Violence, Stigma, & The Media: Series Introduction

FAQs on sex offenders

FAQs on sex offenders

posted on: Nov 11, 2014 | author: admin

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NFL should take lead on DV awareness

NFL should take lead on DV awareness

posted on: Nov 11, 2014 | author: admin

The NFL, despite being the most profitable entity in American sports, is a nonprofit organization with an obligation to stand up for the common good.

Veterans Day

Veterans Day

posted on: Nov 11, 2014 | author: admin

Today we honor people who have served in the U.S. Armed Forces and we thank them for their service to our country. Whether a veteran suffers from PTSD or a physical injury or any other host of consequences that come from serving, it is important to treat our veterans (and anyone suffering from PTSD, or recovering from abuse, or really all humans) with dignity and compassion.

Is Honey Boo Boo in danger?

Is Honey Boo Boo in danger?

posted on: Nov 10, 2014 | author: admin

The biggest reason an adult is unlikely to believe a child who discloses to them has nothing to do with the child, but the abuser

Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battlefield

Divorcing a Narcissist: Advice from the Battl...

posted on: Nov 10, 2014 | author: admin

People with Narcissistic Personality Disorder (or other Cluster B personality
disorders such as Antisocial and Borderline) emotionally abuse those in their daily family lives.

Domestic Abuse: DeMaurice Smith, Angela Rose on the Role of Institutions

Domestic Abuse: DeMaurice Smith, Angela Rose ...

posted on: Nov 7, 2014 | author: admin

In this roundtable discussion on domestic violence, Melissa Mahler of Pro Player Insiders and Andrew Willis, Stop Abuse Campaign are joined by DeMaurice Smith Executive Director of the NFL Players Association, Angela Rose Executive Director of PAVE, Michael Lesher co-author of From Madness to Mutiny While Mothers are Fleeing the Family Courts and Eileen King Executive Director of Child Justice.

Predict abuse to prevent abuse

Predict abuse to prevent abuse

posted on: Nov 7, 2014 | author: admin

When child abuse is predictable, it is preventable. It is very predictable that children in a group home will be sexually reactive. Some basic precautions and healthy attitudes can protect them.

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