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Incest Blame Game

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#14 Judge grants children to pedophile father

Last year, an Oklahoma family court judge ordered that a six-year-old girl’s father be given sole custody even though he’s a registered sex offender. The decision was so egregious it made headlines around the world, but experts in protecting children call it just another example of judicial sex trafficking in the United States

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Tackling Child Sexual Abu...

Tackling Child Sexual Abuse

Melissa Mahler of Pro Player Insiders and Andrew Willis of the Stop Abuse Campaign tackle the topic of child sexual abuse with the creator of the ACE study Dr. Felitti, survivor and advocate Matt Sandusky, survivor and filmmaker Johnna Janis, clinical & forensic psychologist Cheryl Arutt and former NFL player Al Chesley.

Surviving Myself

Staring into the bright clinical lights of the Very Intensive Care Unit in a hospital far from home. I’d swallowed 300 Tylenol PM and wished the world goodbye. Almost a week before. It was so predictable and therefore preventable. I tell the story for Child Abuse Prevention Month.

Surviving Myself
posted on: Mar 29, 2015 | author: admin

Abusers follow patterns

There is a mathematical theory based in fractal geometry called “Chaos Theory”. At its most simplistic level, it says that if you look long enough and carefully at what looks like total chaos, patterns begin to emerge. This is exactly how I help my clients in coping with their court cases against an abuser.

Abusers follow patterns
posted on: Sep 10, 2014 | author: admin

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims...

If someone asked you your definition of credible evidence, what would you say? Would you say that medical records, photographs, psychologist’s report, and even a child’s statement is credible evidence? This agency says no, this is not credible evidence, because if it was the reports would have to be indicated.

CPS: Re abusing the powerless victims of child abuse
posted on: Aug 23, 2014 | author: admin

What does safe feel like?

Now, the ACE research establishes that exposure to domestic violence creates catastrophic health consequences for children. The pressure from professionals who make their income responding to domestic violence custody cases, normal preferences for the status quo and reluctance to acknowledge widespread failures from existing practices are obstacles to creating the reforms needed to protect children.

What does safe feel like?
posted on: Aug 20, 2014 | author: admin

A beautiful lie about child abuse

We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.

A beautiful lie about child abuse
posted on: Aug 13, 2014 | author: admin

Re-abusing children in court

Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges

Re-abusing children in court
posted on: Aug 7, 2014 | author: admin

Why hitting a child is legal

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Why hitting a child is legal
posted on: Jul 26, 2014 | author: admin

Stopping murders with The Quincy Solu...

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Stopping murders with The Quincy Solution
posted on: Jul 14, 2014 | author: admin

How stopping abuse saves billions

It is important for businesses to understand the enormous benefits the Quincy Solution provides to the business community. Today many are unaware of the money that can be saved by ending our tolerance for men’s abuse of women.

How stopping abuse saves billions
posted on: Jun 23, 2014 | author: admin

Is spanking, abuse?

When we discuss spanking we often get the reaction that there is a difference between spanking and abuse. We agree with that. In most states it is perfectly legal to spank your child. This doesn’t make it good for children nor does it stop it from being abusive. We’re not seeking to judge we are seeking to educate. Spanking your children, even with love, actually especially with love, causes long term harm. There are better ways.
We like the way this article on Vox explains it.

Is spanking, abuse?
posted on: Jun 9, 2014 | author: admin

Paying billions to be abused

Barry Goldstein shows how The Quincy Solution saves America $500 Billion every year by stopping domestic violence crime. The Academy on Violence and Abuse estimates that we spend between $333-750 billion per year on health costs made necessary by domestic violence- much of this is saved when communities implement The Quincy Solution though.

Paying billions to be abused
posted on: May 19, 2014 | author: admin

The Quincy Solution

The Quincy Solution is a group of best practices that will dramatically reduce domestic violence crime and child abuse. It means that women and children can be safe in their homes. The Quincy Solution will make our society happier, healthier and richer. Battered women and children will have the opportunity to reach their potential free from the obstacles imposed by abusive men. And the Quincy Solution will save the United States $500 billion every year.

The Quincy Solution
posted on: May 12, 2014 | author: admin

Sign and support the Safe Child Act

The health and safety of children must be the first priority

The thrust of our Safe Child Act is that courts must make the health and safety of children the first priority in any decision about child custody and visitation. Although there is a long history of society treating children like property, it is hard to imagine that any other consideration could take precedence in the 21st century. What could courts possibly be thinking when they place children in jeopardy in order to accomplish objectives that are far less important?

Sign and support the Safe Child Act
posted on: Mar 29, 2014 | author: admin

What’s your ACE score??

Barry Goldstein shows how research can stop domestic violence and save America’s taxpayers $500 billion every year.
One of the most important research studies about the impact of domestic violence on children began as a project to treat morbidly obese patients and help them lose substantial amounts of weight by eating no food but taking supplements to satisfy their nutritional needs. Some patients failed to lose the expected weight because they did not follow the protocol, but it was successful patients who were the ones to drop out of the program.

What’s your ACE score??
posted on: Mar 5, 2014 | author: admin

Suffer the children. Custody courts t...

An alarming percentage of the 74 million children in the United States are in jeopardy, living with physical abuse, sexual trauma, emotional pain, and/or neglect. Nearly 6 million of them are involved in reports of child abuse every year, although fewer and fewer are being protected. 22% live in poverty We asked leading domestic violence expert Barry Goldstein for the top 10 ways we could know the custody courts are broken.

Suffer the children. Custody courts take no mercy
posted on: Jan 4, 2014 | author: admin

Why do people abuse?

This is no easy task, and experts have spent decades studying the nuances of the human psyche to figure out what makes a person abusive and why people abuse. Are there core personality traits which predispose people toward abuse, or is abuse a learned behavior?

Why do people abuse?
posted on: Jul 23, 2013 | author: admin

Child Abuse Changes the Brain

Child abuse – The brain changer  Science now shows how the abused children develop differently and grow up with...

Child Abuse Changes the Brain
posted on: Dec 9, 2011 | author: admin

Why raising “boys to be boys...

The recent BBC Panorama programme on levels of male suicide in the UK made for a sad and sobering watch to say the very least. An article in the Guardian showed the stark reality which should be a wake-up call for us all.

Why raising “boys to be boys” raises no one up
posted on: May 12, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

I stopped spanking. Now what?

Maybe you’ve made the decision to stop spanking, stop yelling and to start a peaceful parenting path. Good for you! But now what? It is much easier to say we won’t yell at or hit our kids than to actually do it.

I stopped spanking. Now what?
posted on: May 8, 2015 | author: admin

Cavaliers’ playoff promotion vi...

The Cleveland Cavaliers showed a promotional video during Wednesday night’s Game 2 against the Chicago Bulls that depicts an incident of domestic violence.

Cavaliers’ playoff promotion video shows domestic violence
posted on: May 8, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Your Domestic Violence Experience Can...

Help inform future research about abusive relationships (including physical, sexual, and/or emotional/psychological abuse) by participating in a new research study aimed at understanding intimate partner violence.

Your Domestic Violence Experience Can Help Others
posted on: May 7, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Battered Mother Lost Custody to Abusi...

A battered mother lost custody of her kids to an abusive spouse after she refused to participate in court-ordered therapy with her ex-husband who had been convicted on nearly a dozen charges of sexually and physically assaulting her.

Battered Mother Lost Custody to Abusive Spouse
posted on: May 6, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Child Abduction Social Experiment

Educating adults on how to prevent child abuse, know what to if a child reports abuse to them, and what symptoms children who have been abused display is important. Luring children away with puppies and reinforcing stranger danger, as this video does, teaches adults the wrong lessons – but it has over 4,000,000 views.

Child Abduction Social Experiment
posted on: May 6, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

The Roman Catholic Church And Sexual ...

Priests represent a very small percent of those who sexually abuse children- about 3%. However, the Catholic church has become the only major source of opposition to eliminating the Statutes of Limitations on child sexual abuse in NY and most other states.

The Roman Catholic Church And Sexual Abuse Prevention
posted on: May 5, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

The unintended consequences of suppor...

Ten years ago, New York tried to join the ranks of states like California that had eliminated the state’s Statute of Limitations (SOL) for child sexual abuse. A decade later, well-funded battles by the Roman Catholic Church have rendered New York among the most sex-offender friendly states in the nation.

The unintended consequences of supporting abusers
posted on: May 4, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Top 10 reasons your child loves you

Top ten things your child LOVES about YOU! Well, I mean, I can’t really say that for certain, but I do have a reasonably good imagination, and I would imagine at least these ten things would make every child’s list!

Top 10 reasons your child loves you
posted on: May 1, 2015 | author: admin

The Importance of Using Accountable L...

Like all tools of oppression, unaccountable language is conditioned into our psyches, taught and learned as appropriate vocabulary and in socially acceptable sentence structure. Thus, unaccountable language is part of everyday parlance of people acting in complete good faith in trying to end men’s violence against women.

The Importance of Using Accountable Language
posted on: May 1, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Kelly Rutherford Petition

Only in a broken court system could an undisputably wonderful mother like Kelly Rutherford lose custody because her ex-partner did something that made him ineligible to return to the United States. Please sign Kelly’s White House petition so common sense may once more prevail.

Kelly Rutherford Petition
posted on: Apr 30, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

In a room full of caring people, ACEs...

When Dr. Robert Anda began giving presentations about the CDC-Kaiser Permanente Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study after its first publication in 1998, he often asked people in the audience to anonymously fill out a 10-question ACE survey. He found that people in the helping professions had higher ACE scores.

In a room full of caring people, ACEs are high
posted on: Apr 29, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

RIP Gavriel Ortiz-Fisher

If another child dies before the community forgets, leaders do something. They usually act as though a child’s murder by a guardian is something we couldn’t predict or prevent, and that doing anything is better than nothing. But that’s not true. Improvements in public policy could have prevented Gavriel’s murder.

RIP Gavriel Ortiz-Fisher
posted on: Apr 29, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Baltimore Riots – Mom Attacks S...

Asadah Kirkland of Beating Black Kids explains why it is time to raise our skills not our hands lest kids throw rocks to express themselves for yet another 40 years.

Baltimore Riots – Mom Attacks Son
posted on: Apr 28, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

3 Reasons To Waive The Statute Of Lim...

We know more about the sanitation of the restaurant down the street than about the risk our children face in the schools we trust to take care of them every day. With any abuse event, knowing how and why is essential to prevention. Despite 4 decades of abuse, Horace Mann refuses to investigate or cooperate to learn the truth. We expect our schools to be accountable.

3 Reasons To Waive The Statute Of Limitations On Sexual Abuse
posted on: Apr 28, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Top 10 Things You Learn From Listenin...

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Top 10 Things You Learn From Listening To Survivors
posted on: Apr 28, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

Courts Accepted Flawed Unscientific T...

The US Justice Department has now released reports that confirm widespread use of false and misleading scientific testimony in criminal and custody cases. The criminal courts are moving aggressively to correct mistaken decisions. What will the nation’s Family Courts do to help children whose lives they have placed in jeopardy?

Courts Accepted Flawed Unscientific Testimony
posted on: Apr 27, 2015 | author: Andrew Willis

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