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Know your score

Know your score

When I first heard of the ACE test, and stopped to consider the impact that particular number has on each and every person, I was struck by how complicated and confusing it seemed. But after thinking about the ACE score in terms of my own children, it really doesn’t seem quite so complicated after all.

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NFL Interview: Why does s...

NFL Interview: Why does she stay?

Melissa Mahler of Pro Player Insiders is joined in this discussion by Andrew Willis, Stop Abuse Campaign; Tony Richardson, former NFL player; Eileen King, Executive Director of Child Justice; and Mildred Muhammad former wife of the infamous DC sniper. In this episode the focus is on the victim’s perspective and answering that often asked question, “Why does she stay?”

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Yes, you can hit my child

Yes, you can hit my child

The Darlington County School District policy permits administrators to paddle students with permission from the child’s parent or guardian.

A Safe October

Aside from the standard “bring a flashlight, don’t eat unwrapped candy” variety of October tips, we have a few more to offer for you and your littles to keep this beautiful season beautiful.

A Safe October
posted on: Oct 2, 2014 | author: admin

Guilty As Charged

Trials for children killed by abuse come and go – there are about 1600 of them each year in the United States, and there have been a startling number of them in Erie County NY in the last three years. Some result in convictions, some don’t. But with Eain Brooks, the community’s message of stopping child abuse will continue after the court room clears.

Guilty As Charged
posted on: Sep 21, 2014 | author: admin

Shedding light on a dark spot: Blurre...

I am the artistic director of the global grassroots theatre company, Price of Silence. We strive to bring courage to women to stand up and shout out for real change. On stage we bring to life the violence that women face all over the world for our audience to live and breathe activism in action.

Shedding light on a dark spot: Blurred Lines
posted on: Sep 20, 2014 | author: admin

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Pet...

For those who are familiar with my story, you know that I am intimately familiar with how it feels to lose a child. I also know the pain of learning that your child was murdered as the result of a horribly abusive incident. I simply cannot understand how a man whose child was murdered in this violent way can justify raising his hand to another one of his children. As I read more and more about the story, I felt as though I had entered some strange alternate reality. I couldn’t believe how bold this man was to believe he would not have to face the law after what he did.

Ray Rice – The Child Of An Adrian Peterson
posted on: Sep 17, 2014 | author: admin
Roger Goodell

Roger Goodell

posted on: Sep 17, 2014 | author: admin

The attack on his partner by Ray Rice has probably drawn more media coverage than any domestic violence story since O. J. Simpson. Ray Rice and Roger Goodell have been severely criticized for their actions and in fairness they would be the first ones to agree that their actions were wrong.

Yes, you can hit my child

Yes, you can hit my child

posted on: Sep 16, 2014 | author: admin

The Darlington County School District policy permits administrators to paddle students with permission from the child’s parent or guardian.

Where’s The Line?

Where’s The Line?

posted on: Sep 14, 2014 | author: admin

Adrian Peterson hit the headlines as a dad, just disciplining his child in the same way he had been disciplined as a child. His father spanked him with a switch. He continued that tradition of “discipline” by spanking his own children with a switch “when necessary.” The problem is, this is not discipline, it is abuse. When we hit our children, it tends to escalate into a little more and a little more until that tiny smack has one day become a beating, and we have no idea how or why we got there.

Happy Birthday!

Happy Birthday!

posted on: Sep 11, 2014 | author: admin

Wonder why Janay Palmer Rice doesn’t leave? When most people think of domestic violence, they think of one partner hitting another, and they wonder why the victim stays. It’s very hard to understand the control, the fear, the millions of wounds to the soul that allow the abuser to control their victim’s body. Today’s guest author provides an intimate, powerful picture of just that with this piece, excerpted from her upcoming book. Misunderstanding domestic violence costs lives- whether it’s judges, police, neighbors, friends or family, not understanding this issue that affects ⅓ of all American women at some point in their life allows it to continue. Thank you to today’s guest author for using your courage to help break the cycle.

Childhood Journey

Childhood Journey

posted on: Sep 10, 2014 | author: admin

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Connecting the dots of chaos

Connecting the dots of chaos

posted on: Sep 10, 2014 | author: admin

There is a mathematical theory based in fractal geometry called “Chaos Theory”. At its most simplistic level, it says that if you look long enough and carefully at what looks like total chaos, patterns begin to emerge. This is exactly how I help my clients in coping with their court cases against an abuser.

Cutting NJ Deficits

Cutting NJ Deficits

posted on: Sep 9, 2014 | author: admin

THE FAILURE of Governor Christie and Democratic legislative leaders to find a constructive solution for the long- and short-term budget shortfalls led to our credit rating being downgraded, which will in turn exacerbate the problems with higher interest payments. We desperately need a solution that is politically feasible and realistic. The United States spends more than one trillion dollars annually as an unintended subsidy for domestic abusers. Implementation of best practices to prevent domestic violence would quickly save $500 billion annually.

Ray Rice Terminated

Ray Rice Terminated

posted on: Sep 8, 2014 | author: admin

Today we are asking that people who never want to see a video like the one below please contact the NFL and ask them to take the pledge to end domestic violence.

Hitting Kids

Hitting Kids

posted on: Sep 8, 2014 | author: admin

If a child doesn’t know how to read, we teach. If a child doesn’t know how to swim, we teach. If a child doesn’t know how to multiply, we teach. If a child doesn’t know how to behave, we…..Punish.

Faith Killing

Faith Killing

posted on: Sep 4, 2014 | author: admin

The Tennessee Supreme Court will hear arguments today in the case of Jacqueline Crank, an East Tennessee woman sentenced to 11 months, 29 days of unsupervised probation after being convicted of child neglect in the 2002 cancer death her 15-year-old daughter, Jessica.

Dear John

Dear John

posted on: Sep 4, 2014 | author: admin

An open letter to Congressman John Kline and the House Committee on Education and the Workforce asking why corporal punishment, such as paddling, is still legal at public schools when it lacks evidence to support it?

Speaking the Unspeakable: Sadomasochistic Child Abuse

Speaking the Unspeakable: Sadomasochistic Chi...

posted on: Sep 2, 2014 | author: admin

Sadomasochistic child abuse is already prohibited under sexual abuse statutes in most US states. At the same time, corporal punishment remains legal in public schools in 19 states, and in private schools, church-run events, and overnight camps in many others. But in an era when parents share a healthy skepticism about the motives of everyone who works with- or volunteers to be around children, how is it not time that we dare to consider – and discuss – what we really know about the people who are seeking permission to paddle our kids?

NFL Get’s It Right!

NFL Get’s It Right!

posted on: Sep 2, 2014 | author: admin

Barry Goldstein praises the NFL’s good decision that sends a strong message that domestic violence is not to be tolerated – but he calls on the NFL to go further and become a leader in domestic violence prevention through supporting The Quincy Solution.

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