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Where’s The Line?

Where’s The Line?

Adrian Peterson hit the headlines as a dad, just disciplining his child in the same way he had been disciplined as a child. His father spanked him with a switch. He continued that tradition of “discipline” by spanking his own children with a switch “when necessary.” The problem is, this is not discipline, it is abuse. When we hit our children, it tends to escalate into a little more and a little more until that tiny smack has one day become a beating, and we have no idea how or why we got there.

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Yes, you can hit my child

Yes, you can hit my child

The Darlington County School District policy permits administrators to paddle students with permission from the child’s parent or guardian.

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I remember…

I remember…

Reminisce, reminisce ….and it goes like this A survivor’s story by Dave Hinchliffe I remember...

DV reform goes to Washington

Many people have asked how my meetings in Washington went so I wanted to provide an update to my earlier article. In general the meetings were productive and I am encouraged by the response. I suspect the needed reforms will not come with the urgency that is necessary, but I do feel we are making progress.

DV reform goes to Washington
posted on: Aug 14, 2014 | author: admin

Genie, you’re free

I look back and wonder what, exactly, saved me that day. I had always had the love of friends and family. I had, and still have, a strong faith. I had an inner fire, a determination to do good in the world and help others. But that day, I felt as though I would never be able to help myself or, more gut-wrenchingly, my children. Many times, a survivor of abuse sees no other way out but this one.

Genie, you’re free
posted on: Aug 14, 2014 | author: admin

Why? A good place to start

Once I got out of the home and became active in the domestic violence community, I found that many women spend a great deal of time wondering why their partners’ had (or do) abuse them. I realized I wasn’t alone in my pondering.

Why? A good place to start
posted on: Aug 14, 2014 | author: admin

A beautiful lie about child abuse

We’ve all heard “it’s easier to believe a beautiful lie than an ugly truth”. It’s hard to imagine any beauty in the notion of strangers lurking behind every lamp post in America, desperate to kidnap children. But it is more attractive than the truth about who actually harms kids.

A beautiful lie about child abuse
posted on: Aug 13, 2014 | author: admin
Insensitive To Suicide

Insensitive To Suicide

posted on: Aug 13, 2014 | author: admin

Since I tried to end my life, more than 25 million others have joined the ranks of suicide survivors in America. Most of them suffering from shame, perhaps, like Robin Williams who was recently quoted as saying, “’I was shameful, did stuff that caused disgust – that’s hard to recover from.”

Our back to school check list!

Our back to school check list!

posted on: Aug 8, 2014 | author: admin

What about a checklist for sexual abuse prevention in our schools? What types of questions should parents be asking at the start of a new school year? Here is a list of such questions to ask in your child’s school to help you get started on a new year with protecting your children in mind:

We know judges re-abuse children! Now what?

We know judges re-abuse children! Now what?

posted on: Aug 7, 2014 | author: admin

Family court is not the only judicial system where judges are blaming and re-victimizing the victims. Criminal court judges have been doing the same thing. This is never more evident than in rape cases where sexism and blaming the victim has become almost second nature to judges

Two game suspension for beating a woman unconscious

Two game suspension for beating a woman uncon...

posted on: Aug 4, 2014 | author: admin

So in 2014, in the United States, the penalty for assaulting a woman so severely as to knock her unconscious is limited to a two game suspension. – Barry Goldstein

Colleges fail Rape 101

Colleges fail Rape 101

posted on: Aug 2, 2014 | author: admin

And this is why stories of colleges ignoring their Title IX requirements about reporting rapes shake me to the core. This is why stories about the University of Connecticut spending over a million dollars to buy a modicum of silence from some victims horrifies me. When colleges do this, they are modeling the Rapists of Today, which ensures they aren’t building the Leaders of Tomorrow.

Britain’s Crime of Complicity

Britain’s Crime of Complicity

posted on: Aug 1, 2014 | author: admin

It operates on the tacit understanding that the rich, the powerful and the famous are permitted to exploit and hurt young people, sure in the knowledge that the elite will look after its own. Thus the scandal cuts to the bone of what sort of society Britain understands itself to be.”

Spanking: Not a matter of black & white

Spanking: Not a matter of black & white

posted on: Jul 31, 2014 | author: admin

Elizabeth Gershoff, leading researcher on spanking in the United States, has this to say about her fifteen years of systematic review of spanking, “There’s no study that I’ve ever done that’s found a positive consequence of spanking.

1962 to today

1962 to today

posted on: Jul 31, 2014 | author: admin

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Death County NY. USA

Death County NY. USA

posted on: Jul 31, 2014 | author: admin

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NFL fumbles on domestic violence

NFL fumbles on domestic violence

posted on: Jul 29, 2014 | author: admin

Sadly, there is nothing shocking about the recently leaked video showing Ray Rice of the Baltimore Ravens dragging his unconscious girlfriend out of an elevator after allegedly punching her. Domestic violence is committed in all segments of society.

State law promotes abuse. Which state is it?

State law promotes abuse. Which state is it?

posted on: Jul 28, 2014 | author: admin

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Encouraging news on our progress

Encouraging news on our progress

posted on: Jul 28, 2014 | author: admin

The ACE research creates some very different ethical issues and should force the court system to consider how they respond to custody cases involving allegations of domestic violence or direct child abuse.

Why is it legal to hit children?

Why is it legal to hit children?

posted on: Jul 26, 2014 | author: admin

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